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I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday. We dated for a little over a year. She was crying hysterically, screaming at me, and told me numerous times that I just wasted her time. I was shocked by her reaction and didn’t expect this type of reaction from her. I remained calm, didn’t raise my voice, and I was trying to get her to calm down, however she just kept screaming. Since I broke up with her at her place, I just walked out and left. Should I check up on her or just let it go? I feel guilty

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Don’t take her screaming too personally. When I was in college I screamed (more so over text) and said some harsh things I regret when a boyfriend and I broke up. I felt bad about it a few days later but was very emotional at the time. Now fast forward 5 years and I’m extremely happy we broke up as I realize we were never a good match. She is upset now but I’m the long run she’ll be thankful for it since she wants kids. Also - Don’t reach out to her or it’ll be received as mixed signals. But if she does reach out to you, be willing to meet up and give her closure. My ex at the time didn’t ever do that (he ignored me completely hence the harsh words) and to this day I think he’s a piece of sh*t.

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It is almost impossible to break up with someone and have everyone come out of it feeling good and happy. You don’t want to be the bad guy, I get it. But a clean break is best, at least for a long time, because it allows everyone to heal and move on. If she wants to chat again, get some kind of closure, sure maybe once, but you’ve got to make a clean break.

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Please don’t check up on her because it sends mixed signals. Speaking from a girl’s perspective, we usually cry a lot but get over quickly (2 weeks and we’re in the clear). Please have her friends check on her though.

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Get over it quickly? All of my ex’s would disagree 😉😂

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Ahh. Playing the "good guy".

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Consultant 1 is an expert in breaking up guys, please listen to him/her.

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Do not check up on her because *you* feel guilty. That would be to make yourself feel better, not her. That is a selfish move. If you think one last conversation would help *her* get some clarity or closure on the situation after she’s had a bit of time to process, then reach out. Her reaction to the breakup sounds relatively normal, tbh. I once had a breakup come out of nowhere and I was so emotional I could not think straight. My world just came crashing down and I didn’t know what to do. We had a calm conversation a few days later about why things were ending and it genuinely helped me to start to close that chapter.

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Exactly this, this is a selfish move where people feel that the other person shouldn’t feel bad because of me. But there are some things which noone can fix, only way to fix this thing would be to be with her. You won’t do that so don’t bother pinging her.

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If she’s that emotional, the break up/make up sex will be really good….

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🤦🏾‍♂️

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Offer her the opportunity to talk/ask you questions. She’ll have a lot after she calms down and thinks things through for a few days. If you blindsided her, this is a normal reaction for an angry person who just got dumped. I’ve been there. It’s not easy just to accept an out of the blue break up

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Ugh I was like her about a year ago exact same reason but yes don’t check up on her she will get over it eventually and she will be fine

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Did you break up with her completely out of the blue?

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Nah, let it go

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Freaking out about how you wasted her time seems like a strange reaction.

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Just walk away. No easy way to do it, and everything you do will be inadequate . It’s all for a reasonable reason though - having kids/not wanting them should be a deal breaker.

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Was there a reason for the breakup? If not, how are you surprised she was hysterical? Need more context…

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I mean it’s ok to scream, she would have imagined totally a different future with you and can see it crumbling. Everyone deals with grief differently, don’t check on her please. It messes up with the brain and gives hope. Saying this as a person who has been in her shoes.

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Give her 1 week to think through.

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Why did you break up with her? It sounds like she did not see this coming.

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Also why does it take a year or half a lifetime to know whether one wants to have kids? PWC3, GASP at you because despite the world being screwed up, some do want to have biological kids because they value their genes. GASP at you for dismissing people whose values you don’t agree with. GASP at you for ridiculing a birth scene to be “riping body parts and shitting”.

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Why did you break up with her?

Have friends check up on her.

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