I broke up with my long term ex 2 years back and then felt real spark only maybe twice with 2 people with whom it didn’t work out as they wanted something else. With the rest of the guys I am ambivalent and not taking super directed steps or being my natural super into self as I am not super into them. I am a great conversationalist though and the interest part they get to know only later. Contd

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I’ve had a spark with maybe 4 people in the past decade, and it didn’t work out with any of them. You are pretty normal.

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Got it, thanks😊. Good luck to you too!

Hah, sounds a bit like me. In 3 years since I’ve been single after coming out of a long term relationship I only had a spark with one guy. I guess this happens because we know much better now what we want from the person next to us?
I also shortly dated a few very nice guys but I could clearly see there was no future there as they couldn’t provide what I wanted from a relationship, so even if I liked them, there were no fireworks there.
There are many great guys out there, I’m sure few will bring the sparks. Pandemic is almost over so much easier to meet them now 😁

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Most of the times the guys with whom I haven’t been too into drop it after a few times/days/months saying they didn’t feel a connect.

I don’t get what’s wrong here and what might be the actual reason. I am at a very secure and best place mentally than I have been for years. But I guess I am not able to form that connection. With the people with whom I form it, it led to just sex after the breakup.

Have I closed out emotionally? I am happy with my current life but for this thing where I don’t know is it an internal problem or it’s just that I haven’t met someone compatible or am I searching for my ex’s qualities in the new ones?!

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