I can't handle my Q4 deal volume the way I have before. I'm so emotionally exhausted that I can barely manage an 8-hour day. My long-distance partner is a doctor treating covid patients. My family is 3,000 miles away. I have no one I can delegate work to. I just don't know what to do…is quitting my only option? 

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Can you outsource anything? House cleaning, meal prep, laundry? It’s ok to spend money on these things if you have the means to do so and it can help you remain sane and ok.

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There are some great services that send premade meals that are of fresher/higher quality than buying a frozen dinner—Freshly comes to mind.

... are we co-workers? Cause this sounds like everyone in my group.

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If quitting is not an option.. then you have to break it down in small bites. Literally dealing with your day 30 min on/ then 30 min off. Until you feel you can do more at a time.

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Right there with you.

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No. Stop taking work or threaten to until you get help. You take care of yourself and your partner.

Nothing to say except I feel the exact same way. Lonely, exhausted, not nearly the reserves to grind through these year end deals as I have before. Sending you solidarity and support and hope that things will, at some point, get better.

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