I come from a place of always being critical about myself. I recently received feedback that I’m always calm and cool and collected. Folks around me usually describe themselves as intense and passionate at work and calm and cool outside, but I’m opposite! As someone who is more introverted, I don’t want this to seem as indifference.

Is it a negative look to be too quiet in meetings? Does this show you are not interested or timid?

Has anyone ever been a victim to a team member’s jealousy? I have this person on my team who tears apart my work in front of all the creative directors. It makes me look bad.. I can’t help but take her comments personally. I can’t help but think there’s some jealousy- she has so much energy to rip someone apart. Everyone else complements my work but I’m afraid to mess up and have her call me out in front of the directors. I feel like the whole time I’m just playing defense. What do I do?

Anyone’s partner do something that was blatantly against firm policy and asked you to go along with it?

Just discovering RSD after being diagnosed as an adult. I feel like SO MUCH of my life has been impacted by this and I just never had a name for it. At work if someone gives me negative or constructive feedback it can feel like a punch in the chest even if I know it's not personal. Makes romantic relationships so hard too. What do you do to handle it especially at work?

One partner is driving me insane. I CANNOT work with him. We are far enough in the case that it would take a lot of time for someone to take over for me but still early enough that the case will be going for another 2 years. Has anyone ever asked to be pulled from a case and is there a way to distance myself from this partner without hurting my reputation? 2nd year lit associate, partner is a jr partner in a different office but we cross staff a lot. TIA!

Do we have to wear formals in Airbus ?

How do I set myself up for success in the first 30 days of my new EA role? What questions should I be asking? How often should I be meeting with my executive? 2-3 times a week or daily morning touch base calls?

How do people deal with client requests when they’ve had a few too many drinks? It’s happened a few times on weekends and it’s becoming difficult to navigate when they’re unexpected

What do you do when your partner says they're going to cover drafting/filing something and then they don't do it.....? I don't want to come off as rude in emailing my partner about it, but I simply do not have any time to take care of it and they said not to worry because they were going to do it.

The small firm I work for has a terrible turn over rate and I think it is in part due to the firm owner/managing attorney. He seems oblivious to this and always finds fault with the people who leave. Is there any good way to approach this with him or am I better off keeping my mouth shut? It’s affecting my work because I keep losing assistants and paralegals and then having to get new ones caught up.

My boss is a smart rainmaker for the organization. But she bullies people to get her way and doesn’t let people express their opinions. She is very high up and I don’t know what to do. I don’t trust HR and fear it getting back to her and the retribution.

I want to find ways to build up team morale without resorting to clichés like a pizza party. What are some of your favorite ways to give back to employees?

Ladies, what's your favorite shoe brand for work?

Is it weird that I’m the only one at our office that enjoys suspenders? I always get compliments, and can’t seem to figure out how it’s not a thing...

What are some good books to read if I want to learn how to better show up for the team as a manager?

Would anyone be interesting in referring a friend of mine to their firm? He is a Nigerian-American who just got back from doing his mandatory year of work for the Nigerian govt and is having a cont...

What is the advice on what feedback to leave for a peer who really sucks at everything y'all have worked together on? It's about the time where everyone on my team requests feedback from each other and I'm nervous for it coming up. My manager knows that everything I've worked w her on I end up doing 90% of the work when it's meant to be split so it is a known issue. We're both at level 3 so are genuinely peers. She seems like a nice person but i have 0 positive work feedback tbh

I have recently started using a dry cleaning pickup & delivery service and I am not sure what the tipping etiquette is. Do people using similar services tip the driver for dry cleaning pickup & delivery?

Non-binary ad people, did you come out to your work? If so, how did you go about doing it? I don’t think I can survive another day of being called a lady at work.

Anyone else struggle with the Managing Partner and Officer Manager duo that creates a toxic environment? Even more so, they are married and do not understand that the cultural issues in the office are largely created by them?

Best family friendly places to live in Dubai?

I joined accenture recently..where can i get details to access Allsec portal and mark attendance

Let's make this group better. Suggestions?

Thinking to drop a few YT videos on fashion, clothing, grooming etc

It’s suspicious how gas prices are lowering just in time for the midterms…

Most common exit opportunities at the Senior and Manager levels from B4 Transaction Diligence?

People moving from KGS to KPMG canada.. how do you do that? Joined kgs few months back in consulting.. Is this a permanent Transfer or just an onshore assignment for sometime?

Anyone’s partner do something that was blatantly against firm policy and asked you to go along with it?

Can anyone share some agencies that are 100% remote or close to?

Hello Fishes,

Iam looking for a job as a Bid Project Manager or Bid Manager can be part time / full time.

Any help would be appreciated.

Just discovering RSD after being diagnosed as an adult. I feel like SO MUCH of my life has been impacted by this and I just never had a name for it. At work if someone gives me negative or constructive feedback it can feel like a punch in the chest even if I know it's not personal. Makes romantic relationships so hard too. What do you do to handle it especially at work?

Hello Fishes ,

My wife has received an offer for the position of ESG reporting specialist .

Package : 12 LPA
YOE : 4 Years

She is currently working with EY and is due for a raise with current package of 7 LPA. However , her concern is that in EY she gets to work with different clients and create reports for them which offers a lot of challenges and she enjoys those which might be missing in UBS

Any suggestions on whether she should join ?

Auditing on a Saturday night in NYC #livingTheDream

How are they paying for a 11+ yrs experienced candidate ?Can I expect 40 LPA? .
CTC is 23 LPA
How will be the interview rounds

*shows my mom the work i've been doing* *mom doesn't understand what i do* mom: i'm so proud of you!

do we need to fill trutime for 5th october, a red clock icon is above that? however in timesheet the 9 hours were added automatically on holiday section.

Thoughts on anxiety medications? I struggle with anxiety and low confidence and hoping they help. How is it going on them (or off them)?

When anxious, time seems to speed up which makes one perceive time constraints when tackling tasks.

When not anxious, an hour feels like eternity and sufficient time to knock out tasks.

What are your techniques to slow down time?

Mine is to meditate, pop a klonopin, and write in a journal. This 30 minute routine quiets the mind and removes distractions.

So, I literally have ZERO friends. I moved to the US when I was 19, lost touch with a few childhood friends. Didn’t make too many friends in college. And now I am 33 and married, with ZERO friends.

Just had a partner pull every matter we were working on together. I feel like any day is going to be the day they kick me out the door.

Trust. I had three situations in the last 24 hours where things did not work out as they should or I was given wrong information. These situations were small and are definitely first world issues.

But it underlined for me how important trust is and how I feel so alone not having anyone there I know 100% I can trust them.

Everything around me is I have the fight a little or a lot for the actual truth. And that saddens me

Ever feel the loneliest when you’re in a room full of people/hanging with a group?

I’m depressed, anxious, unmotivated, uninterested, easily frustrated, dead inside, etc. i pretend to be the opposite of me during interview and got the job. I’m starting the new job soon, do I continue faking it? I usually work with people who needs you to be nice and warm and involved and conversational and I force myself to be that and got burned out every day and I would hate faking again in new job..

I'm about to turn 30 and have never had a long term serious relationship. I'm not muscular at all, have a dad bod, can't grow a beard, am losing the hair on my head meanwhile i have a chest full of hair and i usually find myself in the friend zone when trying to court a lady. I have this fear that I will never find anyone and will be alone my whole life because something is wrong with me. Rejection really hurts.

I'm "funemployed" right now as I wrapped up my last job on Friday and my new job starts August 1st. This is the first time since college that my fight or flight hasn't had a strangle hold on me

My level of anxiety is so high right now, with so many things going on in my professional and personal life, and I’m dealing with it in the worst way, eating (junk) like a maniac (cont)

Heading to a law school reunion of sorts and anxious about the brag fest that will ensue, along with the prying questions about how well others are doing in comparison. I have not proven as successful (big law/loans paid) as some of my colleagues and I can’t avoid this event. The anxiety is creeping. How would you handle it?

I struggle with extreme self-doubt and take all criticism very personally, which translates into me engaging in self-destructive behavior to compensate and to please others. What are daily actions I can take to combat this? How can I assess when to take criticism seriously, how to regard it dispassionately, and how to push back and stand up for myself?

I feel so depressed about working a corporate job, anyone have any cool alternatives, I’m 26 and have enough saved up to take a risk and not work a traditional job for a year, open to any suggestions

Having an anxiety attack in the office is the worst feeling. Not how I wanted my week to start. This shit really comes back 😭

What “self help” books are you guys reading? I just read Untamed by Glennon Doyle and wow, I want to start from the beginning again, but feel like I should read something else. Would love any suggestions.

How do you come out of your childhood trauma? I am turning 30. I had an alcoholic & abusive father (to my mother). He was very quiet and loving but when drunk he turned into a completely different person. I saw him coming home drunk daily, abuse my mother and I never really had a normal childhood. He died when I was 20.
How can I come out of this childhood trauma? Not a single day when I can't think about my childhood. Have affected my personality in different ways and still impacts my life.

I have had issues for a long time, and they always, always come back. I feel like I’m at the end of my rope. If I could fake my own murder or accident I wouldn’t think twice about it, I just don’t want the people in my life to have to deal with a suicide. I feel for them. But what about my pain? I’ve tried so much and no matter what I always end up back here again