I crave a super emotionally intimate sexual connection but when an emotional connection progresses, I run away before we get to intimacy 🤡

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See a therapist and stop self sabotaging

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Thank you u_u working on it!

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OP - I am the exact same way. Thinking back on my own actions I was the sole reason why 3-4 relationships ended before they could start with guys who were more than great for me.

Though my past is rooted in abusive past relationships and a turbulent parental situation growing up.. both of which I am actively trying to work through with a therapist (to be continued!) just stopping by to say you’re not alone and we are all working towards a common goal! You got this!

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Thank you! I mean I’m definitely sorry you have to experience similar things but it does mean a lot not to be alone in the experience.

It’s a weird lonely road, wanting something and getting in your own way, but one day at a time. We’ve got this!

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Why do you do that?

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I’m used to going for the emotionally unavailable. So right now I’m scared I’ll have to be truly vulnerable with new emotional connections and that will open me up to getting hurt again.

But I imagine the hurt would be deeper, because instead of getting hurt because the other person couldn’t open up, in my mind I’d be getting hurt because of some flaw of mine.

I highly recommend therapy.

Classic avoidant attachment theory

Yep. Used to be anxious/preoccupied. Now I'm hanging out in the avoidosphere

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