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i dated my ex for 5 years. Last year he told his parents about us (in our culture its frowned upon to have gf/bf so he told them when ready for marriage). His parents forbid him from marrying me

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I know some may disagree with me but I really think the only way you ever really get over someone is when someone new comes along that is equal or better than previous one. My hunch is that you probably don’t really like this new one and he’s probably just a rebound. Keep looking for the right person who will be so great you won’t remember what’s his face that loves his parents more than you.

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As a fellow Pakistani, would you really want to be married to a mama’s boy? Had you gotten married, your in laws would have dominated your relationship. If he could walk away from a 5 year relationship like that, well he wasn’t serious. Consider yourself lucky to have found a good guy so quickly. Cry it out, but your better off.

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Sounds like it is too early to be in a new relationship

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Don’t lose a good thing over someone who walked away from you with no regards to your emotions and feelings

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I’m sorry you’re going through such a difficult time. I personally think it’s important to let yourself feel what you’re feeling and get through it, if you suppress those feelings, they’ll likely manifest themselves at some point. Truth is, after 5 years, you just didn’t lose a boyfriend - doesn’t matter what how poor his reason is; but you’re also mourning the love you gave, and death of dreams and a future you’d imagined/hoped for! If you’re a person who feels deeply, it’s not just going to go away, it’ll take time and effort and patience! Things will get better and you’ll be happy! You absolutely deserve someone who chooses you, always!

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because i’m indian and he’s pakistani (we are the same religion though). Instead of standing up to his parents and fighting to be with me, he left me because he cares more about his parents approval. He hasnt reached out me to since then and I am now in a new relationship with an amazing person except i find myself crying all the time now because i miss my ex and i feel so depressed and hurt and i know its not fair to my current bf. He is amazing to me and i care for him a lot. I just dont know what to do.

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You are lucky that you managed to find another guy who is so amazing. Don’t lose that wonderful relationship for a guy who couldn’t even stand up for you and support you. Definitely consider yourself lucky that this is happening now rather than after marriage where he might have ended up picking his parents over you. Treasure what you have now and nurture that relationship instead of wasting your tears on someone who didn’t deserve. Every time you feel sad, turn that sadness into appreciation for what you have right now.

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Girl you betta forget that man and appreciate what you got!

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My girlfriends parents did the same to her because I’m a tax accountant and they’re a family of auditors

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