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I decided to freeze my eggs and it makes me sad to realise that I might be an evolutionary failure forcing against nature. It also feels that by freezing my eggs I'm giving up on meeting a partner to have a child naturally. Anyone felt similarly?

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As the male end of a couple who just did IVF, I can tell you that by freezing your eggs now you’re likely in a much better position if nothing more than for avoiding one section of the mental/emotional roller coaster. Give yourself credit for addressing the concern. Way better than ignoring it

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I’ve worn glasses since age 7 and have terrible terrible eyesight. If evolution had its way I also would have accidentally walked into traffic by this point ☺️ be easy on yourself! Science has changed all our lives for the better - it’s why the average lifespan isn’t 35 anymore

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Kudos to you for your decision. As far as evolutionary failure, I'm a lesbian and don't lose sleep about it so you're doing just fine ;)

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We’ve come a long way from being hunter-gatherers on the Serengetti. Science allows us to change the rules of the game. In a way, this is peak evolution. 🥳

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A little off topic, for those who’ve gone through it how was the process? Also, how soon to get it?

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Also can you discuss cost?

Why is evolution the correct method for determining right and wrong? If we really wanted to trust evolution then we wouldn’t care about exterminating all that wildlife and we’d be murdering each other just to get ahead “in the name of evolution”.

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I’m nonbinary, so evolutionarily I don’t even exist! Scientific progress is part of our evolution as humans, and freezing your eggs is just partaking in that part. In 500 years we might all be living in a simulation inside of the internet, or on another planet. Who’s to say what’s evolutionarily “natural”?

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