I don’t have friends and I feel so alone. I pride myself on being independent, but I feel like I don’t have anyone anymore

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If you're in a sizable city, you gotta put yourself out there.
I know it's hard--i was where you were a couple months ago. It took a lot of effort and shooting my shot (yes, even prospective friends will blow you off from time to time) which was hard to do when I was down. But I worked on rebuilding my social skills and identity, and now I have some people. And even more importantly, I have the faith and the skills necessary to get more if I lose them.
Go to meetups, happy hours, and networking events (yes, you can make friends at networking events too). The lower your expectations the better, as long as you raise them over time--go from taking just approaching people as a win to having a decent conversation, to getting their number, and finally to finding commonalities that help you build a friendship. A few tries and maybe you'll have a bit of a group you can reach out to to have fun. And if you're lucky, they'll reach out to you too 😊

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How do you do this as an introvert? I find it so difficult

Very much in the same situation :( i had someone say happy birthday to me a day late and i was happy because it was the first non professional, non family message i had seen in over a month

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I was able to fake it til I made it but it’s starting to collapse upon itself. My main form of socialization is with my coworkers who have lives outside of work.

honestly same. my only friends where I live are literally from work. no one else to turn to and it sucks. I really do feel this post

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Same

OP what city are you in?

Philly

Same here OP

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