I don’t trust that the guy I’m dating is over his first love. We’ve talked about it but it’s hard for me to believe him: he sends her birthday wishes, still hangs out with her in group settings, was very sad when he told me about her dumping him, asked her to get back together a couple weeks before we started dating, etc. Do I just move on now?

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Yea i think he is still in love with her, particularly the last part where he asked her to get back together a couple of weeks before - coupled with all the other things doesn't sound great.

Trust your gut on this

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Doesn’t sound like he’s ready for a new relationship

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Just go

I would leave him

That’s a dub.

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