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I drink moderately but lately have noticed a lot of the other moms drink a lot more. I don’t know enough to know if it is a problem or not for them but is it typical that all the adults are drunk at kids’ birthday parties?

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No it’s not typical. Not sure why the whole “haha moms drink” thing exists but I think there’s an issue. Medication through alcohol, even if meme-worthy, isn’t normal. Maybe it’s boredom or lack of support or just trying to fit in?

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Is this day drinking or a nighttime party? I don’t think it’s all that unusual to have alcohol at a kids party if the whole family is invited, but I think it’s unusual for the parents to drink to excess. I think it’s always a major red flag for kids to see their parents (or their friends’ parents) drunk.

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Totally agree with this!

I don’t love the ‘mommy juice’ culture. Is it fine to have a glass of wine? Sure. Is it fine to have a couple cocktails at a party? Sure. But I hate the ‘omg it’s 4pm, I NEED my mommy juice!!’ culture that implies it’s okay to drink a bottle of wine every evening Bc of your kids. I don’t mind people drinking at a kids party but I would be off-put to see parents drunk at a party where they are responsible for their kids. Different for a parents-only party.

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So much judgement here. I don’t really drink but I would celebrate a parent enjoying themselves. As long as they aren’t drinking and driving or getting wasted. Who cares?

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Not atypical I would say, it is a party (hopefully not a morning party 😂)

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Agree EY1. I rarely drink at home but when there’s a kid’s bday party or moms night out I definitely do. Not falling over drunk at a bday party though.

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I’m guilty of this. Between little kids and work, I “need” a drink to unwind during witching hours 😬 these are some toughhhhh years.

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My mom apparently had a rule about not drinking before 5 when my little brother was a toddler. He was just a LOT and she wanted to draw boundaries that worked for her. (She loves us to pieces but said there was no hate in the world like how you can hate your own children when they are real little)

I've noticed the same thing. Have a ton of people in social media that mention how they sort of need their drink(s) at certain time to make it through. Like consistently. And it's said as joke, but I know the drinks are actually being consumed, and makes me wonder if it's a problem as well. I'm done cases in not sure, but it some others it's so consistent and from other conversations I lean towards thinking, yes, it's a problem.

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I’ve never been drunk at a kid’s birthday party, but between a stressful job and being a mom, I do feel like I need a glass of wine to unwind in the evenings.

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No judgement for a drink here and there, but I so rarely drink alcohol that it would shock me to see drunk adults at a kids party. I am very introverted and don’t go to many parties, but I’ve never seen alcohol at any of the parties my kids have been invited to. Maybe I’m just about as fun as a stock in the mud…

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That should be stick in the mud. Can’t type today it seems.

Yes..that's how we all survive another Pump It Up birthday party...

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Better than Chuck E. Cheese

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Just saw this and laughed

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I was at a 3 yr old bday party a couple weeks ago and some of the adults were celebrating getting out of a DUI the night before (and drinking again). I was shocked by this!

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Wow. That’s scary and awful.

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A mom friend of mine drinks a ton, often around her kid. I’m talking 5 tequila shots when we’re hanging around the pool on a Sunday afternoon and anyone else is drinking maybe a beer. It seems really unhealthy to me, and helps me stay conscious that I keep my drinking in check especially when kids are around

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I really don’t have any judgement more just curious others’ takes on it. So I guess I was asking for judgements on both sides 🤣 It does seem as though a lot of moms are drinking more currently but that is probably true if everyone right now? I live far away from most of my friends so I always have to drive so rarely have more then 1 drink. I never used to really notice how much others drank but now it seems I am noticeably the one not drinking.

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Seen more than one story from moms who were like, everyone thought it was real fun until I realized I had a problem with alcohol and needed help, and then they vanished. I want us to find more space for everyone to get the support they need without needing to drown their sorrows to survive.

Same here. No judgement, and I agree, if it's a celebration, as long you are keeping ok and not drink driving, that's fine. But I know a couple of moms that concern me, but I don't think we are close enough to reach out. Like, I think they may be struggling with it.

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Tbh, this was me - I found I was relying on alcohol a lot this past year. Did the Alcohol Experiment (it’s an app) to help develop better coping skills amd I do feel a ton better. To each their own, just thought I’d put it out there if anyone is curious about wanting to unpack why they say they need a glass at the end of the night or at parties.

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Downloading this app. Thanks!

What?lol this is kinda low

I used to never do it. Now, it's whatever. Especially dealing with all those screaming kids

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