I dumped my gf of 1 yr bcz I started to feel less attracted to her. Plus all my fam ws also telling me that we look good as a couple.If I didn’t dump her, next step would hv been marriage. cntd.

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Gosh! People like you are what make dating a nightmare. I have no idea what you look like and know little about you but based on the couple of comments here you need to “heal” the ugly inside you. Tangible tip for you (and to save other girls from wasting their time): Give another 20-30 years before you date anyone. Make sure you are rich. Then you will find someone who wouldn’t age faster than you and maybe also love you (contingent upon you treating people better).

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You need to tell her the truth, she can probably see through the bs reason you told her. Stop being a coward dude and be honest. You’re feeling bad because you know what you did was wrong

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When you say less attracted, did your feelings change or were there changes in her? Either way I think being 30 years old, you’re a little too old to be hiding behind your parents. I’m indian too and get really annoyed when Desi kids conveniently use the parent excuse when it works to take the blame of themselves but happy to blame the parents for other things that are not right for them . She deserved to know the truth and not some BS. You being less attracted to her does not mean she is not attractive. Maybe take some time to reflect on what is that you are looking for? Are you sure you are not going to become less attracted to the next person you date within a year? Feels like you need some time to not only heal but to mature and grow.

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LOL she is WAY better off without you.

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There were no changes in her. It was more like my family (including siblings and their SO) started to point out 3-4 months ago that she looks older to you and we don’t look good as a couple. Over the time, I started to realize that as well. It got to the point that I had to imagine someone else’s face during sex. I started to think about how most women age faster and my attraction is probably going to go downhill.

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I really hope you are a 10/10

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Wow you are so shallow OP. I hope your future partner doesn’t break up with you for the same reason and gives a similar bs reason cause they are a coward. Men like you are the whole problem in this dating world. First of all, have a backbone to be able to take your own informed decision on whether you like a person or not. Second of all, if you decide you don’t like the person, have the courage to tell the truth and not hide behind blaming others. Gosh!

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Leave her alone. It might make you feel better, but the damage is done and being contacted again after the break up is disturbing to the process of moving on. Do better and be a more honest partner in the future.

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Agree - let it go, you will only hurt her more and you want to make yourself feel better. Super selfish

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Had to join this bowl to jump in here.. Do your future self a favor and do the right thing here. Deep down it sounds like you're realizing that you could have done this better. You owe it to her and quite honestly to your parents as well to be truthful. It will not be a pleasant conversation but it's one the world needs more of.

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We all get uglier over time, that’s why personality is more important then looks. Male Indian fish here

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I didn’t break up with her in a good manner. I basically told her I am breaking up and gave her a BS reason, cz I felt like telling her that she isn’t attractive anymore would affect her self esteem. But I still feel vey bad, bcz as a she was a V good as a person. I feel like I did a terrible thing and looking fr ways to heal.

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I told her that my parents didn’t think she fits in our family. I told her that I felt it ws gonna be hard for her to adjust in a joint family house with my parents. I would not be able to do justice to her genuine expectations as a partner. PS: I am a 30Y old Indian and my retired parents stay with me. Also parents usually have a big say in Indian marriages.

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