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I enjoy watching anime, I've only seen the mainstream ones on Netflix. I don't tell people I watch anime, and I rarely talk about the shows I watch. I don't own a single piece of anime merchandise. My wife has no interest in anime and that's fine, I sometimes tell her plots or crazy twists in the stories. Today we were surfing Netflix and I put on the preview for Squid Game (not an anime) and it looked pretty interesting so I said I was interested and proceeded to put it on. Cont...

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My husband is into anime- grown man in his 40’s. Just like you no indication to the outside world of his obsession. However I get it he likes the genre and quirkiness, I’m not a big fan of the cartoons but I will watch some of the movies. Squid game was really good! On the other hand I love watching documentaries about cults and murders and he doesn’t get it. We just accepted that we just like different things here and watch it in our own time.

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To give her the benefit of the doubt, otakus/weebaboos (not quite interchangeable terms, but from her perspective they likely are) are kind of the “image” of people who enjoy anime in the Western cultural zeitgeist. If one never pauses to challenge what’s been assimilated through pop culture, then it’s easy to just accept it as the truth, and apply it going forward. It may be worth asking her why she said what she said, and why she seems to have negative feelings about anime in general. From there you can broaden her understanding and explain why her comments were hurtful.

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Also, I think you mentioned elsewhere that she thinks anime is weird but didn’t elaborate further. Fwiw, I’ve watched a few with my husband, and while I enjoyed the stories it took me a while to pinpoint why I still felt uncomfortable watching. The portrayal of women is generally… not great. And ever since I realized that’s what it was, I have a harder time watching.

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Sit her down and explain that you watch and support her interests so you would at the very minimum like for her to respect the things you enjoy. No comments needed from her.

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Get a divorce and marry me lololol… I go through the same thing with my hubby so we just watch tv in separate rooms and I told him to keep his comments to himself about what I watch and I will do the same.

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My wife proceeded to say I was obsessed with Asian culture and it's all I watch. Neither of those things are true. I watch all kinds of shows with her. I got defensive and she proceeded to double down on what she said. I basically said "thats not true" and left it at that. I'm feeling shamed, unheard and unaccepted. I don't even know how to address this

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It’s literally television, ur wifey got issues or smthn. By the way totally do watch squid game, it’s super well made and I loved it. I finished it in literally 24 hours, the story has a lot of layers and your wife will be missing out. The dubbed version is cheesy, but maybe offer that as an option if she doesn’t like subtitles.

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I watched the first episode by myself just now and I liked it (wife was running an errand). I'm gonna see if I can get her to watch it with me but after having the conversation with her I think she's going to get really upset and avoid me most of the rest of the day.

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Squid game is SO GOOD. I binge watched it in one day. Am also a love of anime and kdramas

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The VIP portion was very hard to watch. Terrible writing, terrible acting.

Tis is the most confessional confession I've read in some time. Hang in there OP, give your waifu some time to cool down, and then like Pac said, life goes on. No matter what, don't divorce over dis; anime was meant to bring humans together, not divide them

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I dont know who Pac is, but I'll imagine Uncle Iroh said that 👌. Divorce is not a consideration lol.

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My S.O became more accepting after I put on Love Death Robots on Netflix. I think many people are still stuck on cartoons being kiddish or nerdy. Don’t feel shamed or unaccepted- Squid Game is literally #1 in the USA (and #2 worldwide) so there are literally millions of us. I really do enjoy Asian dramas/anime and it’s pretty much the only way for me for decompress. American shows hit too close to home and make me more stressed out.

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For transparency, I haven’t been into anime since I was a kid watching Voltron but why does it bother her so much? They can be pretty cool. I find it weird though that she latched onto the “Asian culture” thing. Did she vote for Trump or something?

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Try watching Demon Slayer with her? I find it's mainstream enough that even a lot of non anime anime watchers enjoy it. It has the highest grossing movie of 2020 after all.

Can we start an anime group lol

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I don’t know too much about anime, but I wonder if she feels insecure in some way, maybe thinks there’s an element of fantasy/desire in it for you? It sounds like you both need to talk about the issues beneath what you were fighting about. Maybe you can mention the reasons you like anime and that you feel seen when she’s interested in your interests. And give her room to bring up if something about it makes her uncomfortable.

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I only imagine she would say that because she may sense there is some fetishization there for some reason ( and it don’t sound like you’re like that). Also I am a fellow anime watcher ( female) sometimes you just gotta do your thing and not let people mess up your mojo

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Definitely not. I'm not about that waifu life and I avoid the perverse animes

Ok. I commented before but my partner is also into anime and while I don’t ridicule him for it I don’t give it the time of day. I’m going to watch it with him this weekend. I’m an ass.

Let your wife know that your anime waifus need love and attention, too.

oh lawd. I'm not that kind of guy

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