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I feel horrible - have been potty training my son since last Nov when he was 22 months. It’s been 8 months and he still doesn’t tell us he needs to go, but will go when prompted. Poops are better, at least he recognizes that feeling and will usually tell us but sometimes not early enough. My husband and I have been “trained” to prompt every 1.5-2 hours. Is it too late to reset on potty training??? I’m 38 weeks pregnant (tired!) and feeling guilty about the whole situation.

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Just want to say that you have NO reason to feel horrible. Just because it’s easier for some kids does not mean you did something wrong for it to not be as easy for yours. All kids are different. We’re all doing our best, and I’m sure you did too. You and your partner are clearly observant, caring parents who made decisions based on what you thought was best. You’re doing a great job!!

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Sweet comment !!

We had to do a soft reset with my daughter around 2.5. Went to completely naked for about a week. When completely naked, she almost never missed going on her own. Then started putting her in regular underwear and talked about how we wouldn’t be using pull-ups or diapers anymore. Occasionally had a few accidents in the underwear but every time made her go to the potty anyway even if she’d just gone in the underwear so it kind of stuck. That went well for 3 months and then she had a week where she pooped in her underwear several times for no apparent reason. Then back to normal. It’s not always a straight path and sometimes developmentally they are focused on something and backtrack a bit, but progress isn’t lost if you gently remind again.

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You may have started too early. We potty trained my first when he was around 2.5 and expressed interest. Maybe a reset is a good idea.

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Thanks for all the comments and words of encouragement! We’ve decided to continue on this path, although next week I’m going to find a few days to do a soft reset with naked time. We followed oh crap to a T when we started the potty training journey last year (pull-ups only at night) and we’ve probably done so much prompting to where that link between needing to pee and telling us has been a little lost / muddled. Hoping for the best 🤞🏼

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My ped said most boys don’t fully potty train until 3.5 yo.

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To expand a little bit more...I’m feeling like maybe all the time we’ve put into it so far has just been a sunk cost. I’m so tired of this and just want to throw in the towel. But we’ve also spent the last 8 months praising my son on learning a big kid skill, emphasizing peeing in diapers are for babies, etc. and don’t want to make it more confusing, recognizing though that we should’ve done the reset so much earlier when it was clear he wasn’t ready (and had many conversations about it, ultimately deciding to give it a little bit longer). I had been hoping that with daycare and peer pressure of other kids also pottying, my son would’ve picked it up more consistently or we would’ve seen at least some progress / recognition of the feeling of having to pee, but we pulled him out of daycare in March. Now that the baby’s arrival is so imminent, it just feels like one more thing to be worried about and constantly track. Would love advice on what to do at this point.

Do you ever put on the diapers or pull ups? I found that until I removed them completely my child would have occasional accidents.

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Does he wear pull ups or is he in underwear? You got this.. all your work is not lost!! And he will a solution get the hang of it.

I have not gone through this yet but my pediatrician said that the worst thing you can do is backtrack / give up once youve started. Id think that sounds right, especially after having done it for so long. Maybe try a new method? There are a couple people mention on here a lot - oh crap potty training, and i dont remember the others. Sorry i cant be of more help!

You’ve got this mama! We started at 22 months as well (now 25) and are in a similar boat. Really good with poops and we prompt OFTEN. He has probably 3-4 pee accidents per week when he is doing something and forgets to switch gears. If this sounds like you I would hang in there. Another mom told me you need to prompt until at least 2.5 years. Like sleep training, consistency is key. I don’t think you should give up as it will only make it worse later. Side note that we have been back at daycare for a month now. First week was rough but since then we’ve seen an improvement.

We used the Oh Crap (start naked) method and that may be a good place to start if you need a reset.

We also started around 22 months, at 24 now and have a newborn so similar. We are definitely still struggling with constant prompting. I second the reset but without going back to diapers, just naked from the waist down while at home for a few days, then underwear etc. I'd also suggest prompting less... Will have more accidents at first but will have plenty of chances to recognize the sensation. Good luck!!

Just wanted to second that every kid is different and not to be hard on yourself!! My best friend had one kid that picked it up super quick (he was good to go in a month), the next struggled for a long long time and still has accidents after a year. You got this momma! Try to relax and focus on the upcoming arrival of your newborn. 🎉🥳

Hey OP, don’t have great advice here just just want to say don’t feel bad! Every kid is different. We started at 2.5, it’s been 4 months and he still has accidents. We did the oh crap method by the book and it didn’t work and eventually I gave in and put him in pull-ups occasionally which I know is counterproductive but I’m too exhausted to be cleaning up pee from the carpet all day. We do our best, and you’re doing great!

We did the oh crap method and it worked really well for us. You can get her audiobook on audible if you’re interested. She’s a great narrator too. My child was 2.5 years old when we started and I feel like it was the best time since he understood things. We had him stark naked for nearly 2 weeks. It was summer so was a great time to do it. We didn’t send him to school at that time either. In fact for my son the pooping was the worst since he only wanted to poop in his diaper. He would cry like crazy and would hold it in for days but I didn’t budge. Continued to give him prunes and after that one time he pooped in the potty he literally didn’t ask for his diaper again. Night training is a totally different ball game. We’ve started it now (he’s 3.5) I’m just saying that your child isn’t going to be in diapers all his life. My ped said that they typically learn to self potty train at 3. So don’t worry. If you’re too tired, I’d suggest that you wait till you’re settled down with the new baby. You’ve got this!

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