I feel like a failure having to see a therapist for my depression. Am I just too weak? Sorry just one of those days today... I finally made my first appointment to see a therapist but feel hesitant

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You are the opposite of weak for seeing a therapist! It’s not only brave, but also smart because you’re taking action and facing your depression headfirst and not being a victim to it. Sure, it’s uncomfortable at first, but with a few sessions and some trial and error, you will feel much better. Keep going! Wishing you the best of luck!! :)

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You are STRONG OP! Good for you for taking care of your mental health. It’s just as important as your physical health. Best of luck with the new therapist!

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Your brain is an organ and needs therapy as well.

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It is no different than seeing a regular doctor if you feel unwell. Nothing weak about it!!

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Depression is one of the cards you were dealt. This is like being near-sighted. Luckily, there are a lot of options available for you to treat and manage it. Therapy is a great step! You're not a failure for actively seeking help. Quite the opposite 😊

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Even therapists see other therapists! Don’t trust one that does not. No you are not weak.. you are strong and an exemplary person to take care of your psychological needs

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Also don’t give up if you aren’t comfortable with the therapist after a few sessions. Try another one if needed. It won’t necessarily seem like a great fit at first - took me at least 4 visits to finally feel like I was getting somewhere with mine

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This bowl has some of the nicest/most supportive people I have ever met. Thanks so much, everyone!

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It takes a lot of guts to make that first appointment. Not weak at all! So proud OP, congrats on a big step and hang in there - and remember if you don’t click, don’t give up on therapy. You may just need to find someone else you gel with. You’re a customer paying for a service and you can leave if it’s not the right fit!

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I have loved my experience- it’s given me a lot of insight & awareness

There is nothing wrong seeking a therapist

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