I feel like I have much less patience for the boys club than I did pre-pandemic. Constantly being talked over, and having credit go solely to a male colleague who has done little to contribute is aggravating. I have no issues speaking up I just feel that I have very little fire left for an issue that should just be dead. Any others feel similarly?

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For me these days it’s equally about “not born here” AND a boys club. In my firm, the few women and the men who have been at the firm for their careers get the promotions by failing up and those of us coming from other firms, who are better qualified and more experienced, have to stay in our boxes and mop up the mess they are making. Is this just what we need to put up with? It seems 99% of my job is now playing a political game. Anyone else feel like that and how do you get through the weeks?

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Felt it too, constantly and left. It took a serious tool on my mental health and said boys club took it as far as psychological harassment. Best decision I have ever taken in my life and understood also I am valued twice as much in the market. Life is too short to stay in a place that puts you in a box and doesn’t value expertise and competence. Wish you the best ✨

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Totally! No patience and I don’t think there can be any more excuses to make it ok in any ways! The problem is that there aren’t many women on top so until there are more… it will keep happening. How can we make sure women stay in the workforce when everything right now is making it harder for them? It’s top of mind for me but I’m also a bit tired of the small initiatives for diversity here and there…

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I am seeing this happen to a female colleague and feel partially responsible because I connected the male team member to her. She’s brilliant and has done what he was tasked for. As the project moved along, it became clear that his personality type isn’t so much boys club - he just needs to be the one with all the answers. He’d be the same as a woman.

I’m the type who ALWAYS gives credit to others, even when it was my idea. Thought being that even the best ideas need a great team to execute. I don’t like when someone tries to shine as a hero, even if the idea was theirs.

My solution is to change how ideas are shared. I can spec something out from start to finish and solve for obstacles before they are encountered. I’m done laying that foundation for others. I’ll share as much as I’m comfortable letting credit go for and let people spin their wheels. Eventually, someone calls a meeting to troubleshoot and I’ll get myself included to share a tiny bit more where everyone can hear. Sometimes I’ll offer to ‘spend some time on it and come back with ideas’ and then present everything to a whole group. Who has the cape now 🤣

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