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I feel like I sabotage myself. I have opportunities to get into MBB but I try to discourage myself from taking action because I feel like I won’t be able to get through casing, or be successful. So I

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I understand OP- if you already feel like one, and let’s say he goes and does not get a job at MBB, it’ll put him in a very depressed state.
I say take care of yourself first, and your well being and only when you feel a bit stronger mentally you should apply.

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I really have trouble w self sabotage too but it seems so subconscious that I don’t realize even what I’m doing to do it. I realized it once when a therapist asked me what it would look like if I failed at work. And I had that scenario all covered in my head and worked out and anticipated. And then she asked what it would look like if I succeeded. And I literally could not visualize it. To even think about it scared the shit out of me because it felt like too much attention or pressure or something. And that then people would see the real me and if I got noticed more than a fall would be truly scary and tough emotionally because I would actually care about it. So I realized I am afraid of success because I’m actually afraid of big failures in something I’ve actually worked for and care about. So twisted and I still have not conquered this, but I must say I’ve tried to learn to just keep going and fight to perform and not sabotage in the day to day. Thinking about the larger picture can cause me to do it more but executing small actions can be easier. If that’s the case for you, then just take the small step of applying. And forget the case interview altogether. Then do the next step when it comes and only focus on that one step intensely and not any other implications.

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This is all so me. The whole thread. Thanks for posting so we can all learn to be better

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So I run away so that no one sees that I am an imposter, including me.

How do I change this mentality? Am I an actual imposter or is it just mind-games. 😞

When you’re at the end of your career will you look back and wish you tried? It’s normal to feel scared and/or uncertain, but are you going to let those feelings dictate your life?

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Please seek professional help. You will be thankful you did

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