I feel like my firm is a death by a thousand paper cuts. Each day/week, I feel more and more disappointed. It’s almost like an abusive relationship where they don’t physically abuse you, but psychologically make you think that we deserve this. Ever since my first week, I keep trying to justify why to stay. Then I wrote down everything that has happened in the six months and I realized had this been a relationship, I would have left because of the mind games. I’m even having victims guilt.

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I feel this, and have been in a similar situation. I lateraled, and while every firm has its pros and cons, getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship with my boss(es) was incredibly liberating. I was seeing a therapist while I was at my last job and she made me realize that emotionally abusive relationships can exist anywhere, especially in a demanding job. Best advice I got was to come up with temporary fixes to make life less miserable (more boundaries, exercise, etc.) until I was able to make the move. My current firm is a sweatshop but somehow less emotionally exhausting than my last job.

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