I feel like my mother prefers another family member (not her child, but same age and gender as me) more than she does me. I was very excited for a recent milestone event in my life and so was the other family member, whose event my mom is definitely more interested in. Idk why I even bother, maybe I should just come to terms with the fact that my mom doesn't care as much and move on with my life without needing her validation
Moms, what are your base annual salaries, your child care arrangement and expenses, and number of children? I make 175k base, have 3 kids, pay about 40k plus taxes for nanny, 10k for preschool, and additional for backup care and summer camp for the oldest. Wondering what everyone else does, I always feel like I overspend on childcare.
Does anyone here have the VC Cornes de Vache? Do you enjoy it? I’ve been going back and forth on purchasing it for my father.
Do you get annoyed by people who say & think they are poor but aren’t? My husband’s dad always complains about money & being poor yet was making over 6 figures, retired, had a stay at home wife, multiple kids, and splurges on new cars or vacations. This makes my hubs think they grew up poor when they didn’t. In turn my family actually was poor and we were immigrants so it’s hard to hear being poor off over 6 figures when my parents never made close to that.
Those returning to work after having a kid: how do you manage? I'm exhausted and feel like it's so hard to perform the way I used to. I also always feel guilty dipping out early to get her f/ daycare.
When did you tell your work / HR you’re pregnant? Looking for guidance from other pregnant / new moms and how you navigated having conversations with HR and other coworkers.
Kid’s going to kindergarten in the fall… what’s our take on cell phones? Not necessary at this age right? What’s everyone doing?
Looking for some input - my husband and I just relocated to Atlanta from LA, and we are expecting our first child. We are currently under contract for a house in Milton/Alpharetta. We had heard the schools were amazing. We are about 16 minutes away from downtown Alpharetta very close to the Manor North Golf and Country Club community. My question is this: we were already concerned with moving to a very residential area, but we are also an interracial couple, and our child will be biracial (cont)
Today is my last day BFing (after building a stash in the freezer). Baby turned one last week and going back to work next week. Cracking open bottle of champagne with hubby tonight and getting drunk😂
Was told about this bowl by a fellow fish. 25F convinced I have undiagnosed adhd. Anyone get on meds later in life vs as a kid? I always had a billion micro thoughts but now it’s ten times worse
I am usually strategic with all choices, but I think I’ll just get pregnant and handle the rest of life as it unfolds.
Should I change my tax withholding now? Our first kid is due in July. I don’t see why I couldn’t. I haven’t found anything yet that suggests they pro-rate based on DOB.
Would you get a COVID Vaccine? Suppose it was mandated by your school and you still had reservations about it.
What’s your thought on a male colleague’s pursuit of spending more time with family given that (i) he’s in his twenties; (ii) he has a newly borne baby; (iii) his wife is a foreigner and does not have a salaried job. He decides to leave my current firm and if he does, his entire family will lose insurance. I personally found it very irresponsible but was told being wrong. So I want to know why I am wrong. This has bothered me for a while.
Dating while CF: when do you usually bring it up? I feel like talking about kids in general on a first date can seem too presumptuous. But this is also an issue that’s important - you can’t compromise and have half a kid lol. What has worked for you so far?
https://parenting.nytimes.com/feeding/european-baby-formula?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur Interesting. So many people (who read about t on the Internet) told us we should try European formulas because EU is stricter about ingredients.
How do you earn $500k and still feel average?
My wife and I are vaccinated. My sister and her husband are not bc they say there’s no long term results on the vax and they’re family planning. Mow they’re coming into town late summer. I don’t feel comfortable meeting up with them, not sure how to put it into words. Help.
I would love to hear the experiences of women who have had C-sections who were pretty active or athletic prior to. I had a vaginal delivery with my first and was able to put baby in a carrier and take long walks around the neighborhood as soon as we got home from the hospital even with some pretty severe tearing.￼ Those walks and outside time (even in awful weather) are what saved my mental health postpartum. I might need a C-section for number two and I’m terrified!￼￼
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What’s the usual annual pay rise for a Manager?
For the first time in my 4 years in consulting I noticed first-hand white privilege at work. Being a white male myself I didn’t realize how real this phenomenon actually is in the workplace.
6 months on a project , week 5 on bench now, just being told to hang on ...Why does it feel like a lay off conspiracy?
Are you working more or less hours since WFH started? I enjoy being home a lot- but it seems my direct managers are expecting me to be available at all hours now- truly creeping into my W/L balance
Was asked the same question by 15 students at last job fair.... "What's the most challenging part of the job." 👎 It's like they all have the same script!
As I prepared to file my notice, the partner of the firm called me and asked me to stay. They’re willing to promote me mid year in December and increase salary next year in August. The current offer I have gives 60% pay increase and Partner still can’t match that offer after promotion. Firm leadership says here I have potential to be a partner in 8 years and talk about all the leadership support I have rn which is fair. Is this one of their tactics to make me stay or should I just leave…
How many approvals are needed before an offer letter is released? It’s been 2+ weeks since verbal and keep getting told waiting for approvals. Why is the experienced hiring so slow? EY
What are some of your favorite hobbies?
I recently went through a long period of rough time. And this friend of mine was there for me for most part. I did use to reach out to them when I didn’t feel good. And I probably know they mean good but they know now I’m doing fine and still every time we chat they ask “doing well?” Asking me doing well only reminds me of my not so good times and don’t know how to tell them to stop asking that every single time.
Anyone filed for an L1 extension with USCIS this year? How long until you got it approved? Been waiting since may...
Write a horror story in 5 words or less. I’ll go first: “Known for great conversation"
My gf doesn't understand that I cant discuss who my clients are with her. Anyone else have an issue with this? She think I'm the only one who follows the rules on that.
Actual, genuine advice requested - no trolls please. Client is insisting coming back to my hotel room. I want to keep things professional and have a gf. After a drunken dinner: advice please?
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