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I feel like such a shitty mom. I am 40 weeks and 4 days and I have not gone into labor yet. The first time I had a C-section, so I cannot be induced for fear of uterine rupture. But if I wait too long for the onset of natural labor for my planned VbAC, then I might be risking the baby’s health. After pumping myself up fir a VbAC and studying breathing techniques and being ready to give birth, I am just at an impasse. My doc scheduled a csection for Thursday because she doesn’t want to wait

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Hi moms! I had a healthy and happy baby girl via csection this Thursday. It was not fun, but the nurses and docs have been great. And even though I’m a little hormonal and in pain, the recovery is easier the 2nd time around. I’m only on day 2 post-surgery, but I’m showered, and feeling fresh. I still have a long road ahead of me, but I’m going to remain as positive as possible. Thank you for all you support and good wishes. It really means a lot to me. Moms are heroes 🦸‍♀️

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Yay congrats!!! Happy healthy baby & mom is all that matters ❤️

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There is no “proving” anything. You are a great mom. C section is rough to recover from but you did it and you can do it again. You got this mama.

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Also I was a week overdue and then went on an 8 mile walk and my water broke the next day. Worth a try :)

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You are an amazing mom. That first sentence needs to go. Asap. Smh.

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I'm nearing the end of my pregnancy and a friend recently told me that the best thing that I can do for my baby right now is be kind to myself. If I am able to relax and be as calm as possible, I'm setting myself up to be as prepared as possible for labor (no matter what it looks like) and those early weeks. Obviously easier said than done, but focus on taking care of you. Baths, good food, relaxation. And maybe, if it's right for you, talking to either a therapist or a birth specialist like a doula to process how your last birth is creating anxiety around this one.

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Did you have a scheduled csection before? If you had an unscheduled one after hours of labor, that might have made your recovery more difficult. Perhaps a scheduled caection will be easier to recover from. Regardless, you’ll give birth and in 48 hours you’ll have a lovely, healthy baby to snuggle!! You’ll be great.

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Try looking up the miles circuit

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There is no proven method, but some people say that walking helps. I only have one kid, but I had a long labour and a c section at the end of it. The long recovery suck, but I wanted to really die because of the labour pains and I had done every course, read the books, bought the mp3 and listened to them for months, had a midwife and the labour was supposed to be at home, the whole thing. In summary, not birth is perfect just the cute baby at the end.

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I know every woman is different and I understand the disappointment or feeing of loss when things don’t go the way you hoped. I haven’t had a c-section so this may not be my place to say, but my recovery after a vaginal delivery was really hard, painful, demoralizing, discouraging, I couldn’t walk stairs for a while, had to sit on a pillow for weeks, affected me in some ways long term, there really was nothing easy about it. Doing a vaginal delivery would not guarantee you certain outcomes. It is really frustrating to not have full control of your own physiology and your own body. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Wishing you peace and health.

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Agree with this. Also had a vagina delivery - 4 hours of labor and forceps delivery- and the recovery sucked. I’m 3 weeks post partum and can do a lot more now and feel better but have urine inconsitence and it’s uncomfortable to walk super far. Can’t work out. Either way, you got this mama!

Eat some dates and go for a long walk!

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Sex and LONG long walks…🤞

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☝️ Did both of these during the day and water broke that night. Good luck, momma!

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I’ve had two csections. First was unscheduled. The second was scheduled. The recovery was MUCH easier the second time. See what happens but if it goes to a Csection, just know that it’s usually a little easier the second time around.

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Anymore. I want to go into labor because I don’t want another csection, but I also want to keep my baby healthy. I know it doesn’t matter how the baby comes into the world, and I’ll be a mom regardless, but I just wanted the VbAC this time for the easier recovery. I hated the csection recovery last time, and I just wanted to prove to myself I could do the VbAC. Please let me know if anyone has reccos fir inducing labor at home. I know about walking, sex, spicy foods, pineapple, castor oil. Let me know what worked for you. Also let me know if you have any words of wisdom or support.

Hugs to you and hope the natural labor comes before Thursday. You are the best mom like you said and hope your recovery is easier. Today when I went to my doctor she suggested nipple stimulation as something that would bring on labor.

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Pump for 10 minutes. Breast milk for my first took a long time to come in, so for my second, gyro recommended pumping starting at 37 weeks to collect colostrum. Well low and behold I pumped at 37 weeks and went into labor at 37, 1, baby born 37, 2.

Nip stimulation is a proven technique! Increases your oxytocin levels :)

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