I feel perpetually down. I’m on vacation with family somewhere I would usually really enjoy and I can’t find the joy in anything. I feel like a different person, like my body is moving but my mind isn’t present. Is this depression? Many bad things have happened this year so could be. I just don’t feel normal. I want to cry way more often than usual. I can’t find the joy or motivation for anything anymore.

Anyone got vaccination shots yet. I got my first one of the Pfizer vaccine on Friday. I have only had one side effect. Very tired!

I’m in a rather peculiar situation. I have been in the HR field going on 4 years, I have over 11 years of management experience, I got my PHR last year and I recently graduated with my MBA with a concentration in HR this month. I am ready for a more challenging role. However, there doesn’t seem to be much available at my current company. However, I am going on 5 months pregnant with the expectation of being out in October. I feel like once I mentioned my pregnancy I was in a holding pattern.

Do you have small kids on your medical insurance? Is it beneficial for a 2 y.o.?

Virtual GP appointments is the one area I'm mostly after as our local NHS GP has been hopeless.

I’ve suffered from workaholism for a long time. Thanks to a lot of great self help books and therapy, I’m no longer putting work on a pedestal and I’m spending a lot more time on self care and my marriage. But, unfortunately, I am now getting withdrawals, because my body is used to the daily adrenaline of throwing myself into work. It’s this terrible feeling of like anguish/unease in my gut, but I don’t have anything I’m worried about- it’s like my body wants to find something to worry about.

I encourage all moms to be and dads to be on this bowl to ask any questions related to pregnancy. From general pregnancy questions to thrombosed hemmroids and anything else in between. Nothing is off topic as it relates to pregnancy. The community is here to support you as the woman during pregnancy and you as the man who may be concerned about your wife.

I’m 16 weeks pregnant and haven’t told anybody at work. My team is organizing an out of town networking event next week (60+ people) and I’m getting second thoughts about attending (mostly because of covid or any other virus I could get by flying in or attending). Am I overreacting or being crazy for thinking this way? I don’t know whether I should attend or not, and if I decide not to, what my excuse could be as I don’t want anybody to think they can’t count on me anymore bc I’m pregnant. Help!

Anyone else freaking out about freedom fertility not sending medication bc of the snow. I completely understand weather isn’t their fault but the person I spoke with was such a jerk this morning and so mean and I’m a puddle of tears

Any recommendations for a good chiropractic center in Denver? Thanks

Kinda a long shot - but have any Canadians flown into LHR recently? What’s the arrival protocol? And what do I need to present to prove I’ll be self isolating for 2 weeks?

How are those holding up in the outpatient setting during covid-19?

Ugh, is that time of year again! Does anyone have any advice on how to handle "friends" and family members who spout conspiracy theories to avoid getting the flu shot

Has anyone dealt with chronically itchy legs? Sometimes bad enough to keep you up enough scratching? What was the cause? How did you fix it? Can’t get to my derm for a while, but this is a lifelong problem at this point, not something acute

Has anyone’s work pace gone from overwhelming last year to constant anxiety attack in ‘21? My colleagues are running so ragged they routinely don’t show up to for meetings including client meetings and I get massacred by then. Taking a big toll on my health and don’t know how to get out.

How do those of you that struggle w/depression handle working at home? Going in to the office gives me a reason to get out of bed in the morning but I’m struggling today due to offices closed (snow)

I moved to Philly roughly a year ago for work and have been having a hard time meeting people here post Covid. I have been using Bumble BFF for roughly two months but haven’t met up with anyone yet. Any recommendations on how to get social and meet people here?

How does your office handle late patients when it's weather/road related? We had a patient show up 10 minutes late and threw a hissy fit because he had driven 40 miles on snowy roads to get there. And I felt bad, but we legitimately could not squeeze him in.

I'm an RN of 7 years, experience as a coordinator, on committees and do all the things. But now I just don't want to go to work anymore. I have anxiety every morning over nothing, just having to go perform my job. I could do my job in my sleep so I'm just lost and confused. My body is clearly sending me messages to leave. But where do I go? I think I need to step out of patient care.

Any WFM nurses out there? Better work-life balance??

How to deal with quarter life crisis?

Most of us joined their first job after college with very high hopes (Like : Yeaah my job, I'mma be solving real world problems now).
Most of our jobs turned out to be not so impactful. (like rudimentary shoveling data into neat piles of PPT).
And we have to do this for life.
I can't seem to shake of the feeling completely even after almost 3 years into working.
(Normalise time to ~1.5 years due to distorted sense of time due to Covid)

Ready for an impossible ask?

How do I replicate lifting heavy legs while at home with no weights. Deadlifts, skwats….

Hi Cognians, I'm new to cognizant

I had multiple tests like blood, hormone and PCOD test near by hometown...is it possible to claim for them? If yes, how can I proceed.

I'm beginning to start leading junior teams on projects, would love some general advice on how to be a good creative leader. Haven't had too many mentors to look up to for this.

Need a new car. Can’t decide if I should be financially responsible and get an old Accord or treat myself a luxury car. I can well afford a nice car and still have plenty left over for savings/investing, but I’d still feel like I’m just burning money away. But also I want to have fun 😓

Which company is bigger? Accenture or Adobe??

Anyone willing to do an informational interview? TIA!

Thoughts on moving into B4 at MD level from private practice w/BoB, assets, and SME?

Currently sitting on an offer for a intro/mid-level design engineer in the Raleigh-Durham Area and wanted to get an idea of the average paybands, online sites have such a large range (50k-400k) that it is hard to narrow in on a price to start negotiating

What are your thoughts on projects that require you to fly out Sun night? Better to fly out mid-afternoon Sunday or catch a red eye that night and arrive very early Mon morning (due to time change)??

Which is better ISG( Internal security of tech mahindra) or ESEC( Client based)?

Please share your thoughts.

How much Joining Bonus usually people get for Grade 27 ?

TCSers can you plz share more details about the new CTC structure which has been rolled out starting 1st April . Is it better than the old one ?

Today was my last day in B4 PA! Started from intern to manager and learned a ton. Now excited to take my $25k increase and join a Fortune 500 company in Jan! Work/life balance here I come!

Missing home a lot lately and would like to make more friends! Any taiwanese / international school TCKs in NYC? I’m 27 female

How much does an engineering graduate with AWS certification earn in an associate level with no experience?

Why is Guinness Surfer the best advertising of all time?

The greatest CTA you’ve ever seen!

Lady fish: Curious, do you really feel undervalued/appreciated at work? Why?

How do you respond when other educators or staff members negatively refer to children and you know it is based on their color?

Guys, where do you buy work clothes?

What do you do with a senior manager who seemed lost all the time? Granted he is new in the engagement - we both are. We talked through things a couple of times but he does not seem to understand it and keeps on asking about the same things. Does not know what is happening on the file or does not seem to care to learn about it. Would only know about things that come through his emails, and would only care where things are at when we are reporting to the partner.

Has anyone tried a weighted blantet such as gravity? Would you recommend it to have a more relaxed sleep?

Guys - i just want to be calm and not anxious and not worried about my career and what other people think of me. If I succeed I succeed if not then it is what it is.

i feel like i’m terrible at my job and i don’t deserve to be here. i try so hard but i don’t feel like i’m doing good work or making any progress. just needed to say it somewhere.

Do any of you have days when you start getting rid of all of your stuff? I think of end of life ceremonies a lot, so when I see all my stuff, I get overwhelmed by it bigtime and want to sell it off.

I've been on the bench for a few weeks and I feel like I have a personality again. Not being stressed, anxious, consumed with work has reminded me what it's like to be more present in my life...

I'd be interested in talking with anyone about how my faith got me through my depression. I'm in the Bay Area and could meet in person.

Happy Monday everyone! I wanted to share something with you all that has helped my anxiety and overall well being. I started doing 10 minute mindfulness meditations daily and it has been the biggest game changer. I find so much more calm and peace throughout my day. I even do it in the middle of the work day if I feel myself getting reactive. I use the calm app (they send you 40% off the 1 year subscription) and they have great material! Hope this helps. Have a blessed day everyone!

I’m so incredibly burnt out—I’ve been going to sleep at 3 am and waking up at 7. I’m working 16 hour days consistently, and on Friday through Saturday I literally pulled an all nighter (until 11 am) to work. I don’t have time to make friends, let alone hang out with them, and all of my partner’s free time lately has been helping me stay afloat. I told myself I wouldn’t quit before busy season ends in March and put my team in a bad spot, but I honestly don’t know if I can make it to then.

I’m really not cut out for corporate America. I’m only 3 months into my new job and my anxiety is through the roof again. I don’t see a way out to make a decent living for myself. I feel lost and tired. I cried today and feel incapable even though I know I really tried my best.

I’ve suffered from workaholism for a long time. Thanks to a lot of great self help books and therapy, I’m no longer putting work on a pedestal and I’m spending a lot more time on self care and my marriage. But, unfortunately, I am now getting withdrawals, because my body is used to the daily adrenaline of throwing myself into work. It’s this terrible feeling of like anguish/unease in my gut, but I don’t have anything I’m worried about- it’s like my body wants to find something to worry about.

Has anyone came off Zoloft successfully? I have been reading about the withdrawals and it sounds terrible.

Favorite depression books / resources / tricks?

What “self help” books are you guys reading? I just read Untamed by Glennon Doyle and wow, I want to start from the beginning again, but feel like I should read something else. Would love any suggestions.

I’m depressed. Nothing unique about my depression - I’m in big law, my career defines me, when I’m not working I can’t find the will to get off the couch, I’m sad or I’m numb…I know I’m the only one that can make a change to my life…I’m on antidepressants. Just extremely unmotivated and paralyzed. Self-help books are not for me, but I am curious - has anyone tried a guided depression/anxiety journal? Any recommendations if so? Or, if you have experienced the same, what steps did you take?

Is it just me or does consulting really make you insecure about yourself - doing the best you can but can it ever be enough? Also, what’s with all the optics and crazy judgment all the time?

It’s always 5:30am by the time I start falling asleep. I don’t know how to flip this pattern without benzos. I hate daytime and the sun.

Does anyone else struggle to accept your diagnosis? I’ve had two therapists suggest I try medication, but I can’t help feeling like I’m just too weak to handle the challenges of the world. That medication is the “easy way out”. In weekly therapy (+other lifestyle changes), but my anxiety/depression just seems to be getting worse.