I feel really depressed. I’m almost 30 years old and living with my parents. I moved recently for this position and since I was so travel heavy (80%) I figured I’d live @ home to save money (per my parents’ suggestion) but ever since quarantine began work is now remote and I’m mentally struggling. Does anyone else regress if they spend a considerable amount of time at their parents??

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100%. I’ve been living with my parents for about a year now due to a few reasons. I totally feel like a kid again when I’m around them (mostly in a bad way) and we didn’t manage to readjust our relationship to a healthy adult-adult eye level. I’m moving out again soon and don’t plan to repeat this living arrangement until it becomes necessary due to caring for them

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Thankfully I have a health relationship with my parents. It’s just a cultural difference where I can’t be myself around them and the fact they baby me and so I regresa into this bum who plays video games all day and don’t take care of myself. It’s a lot easier said than done to fix

Mid 30s male here. Parents and I live together because dad got sick and went on disability - I cover majority of the bills at home.

Needless to say my dating life has been in the dumps - what’s funny is I’ve been turned down by some women who still live with their parents too.

At the end of the day - it’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make to ensure my parents’ well being.

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This is a different situation in my opinion. A noble pursuit!

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As a mom of a young adult daughter who moved back home to save money what can her dad I do to not make her feel like people in this thread feel

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Give your daughter space to explore who she is and what she likes without meddling or criticizing her choices. Parents tend to want to protect us from everything and will often offer unsolicited opinions about literally everything!! It’s ok to not comment or try and fix.

OP you are lucky to have your parents besides you. I understand sometimes things can get difficult and we need personal space - but think of this in a positive way and may be try to communicate and set boundaries? What’s the deal in trying if the situation is already unbearable?
Of course you can consider move out if you try and fail..

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I’ve lived alone before this isn’t my first time I just moved back to save $ and was planning on moving back out but now corona happened and I don’t see the point.

I'm 30, moved back home to save a year ago and was really looking forward to focusing on dating this year, which has been a bit complicated by corona. I'm trying to stay positive by being grateful for the opportunity to save additional money. Hang in there and try to identify goals that staying at home will help you reach. If you feel like your financial goals are already intact, then maybe you should buy/rent on your own.

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Thank you for sharing

I’m a few months past the point of considerable amount of time but.... it’s a really tough time to be single right now. Anyways I hope everyone else is doing better than I am right now.

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Are you M or F? Why would you focus on saving money than giving yourself the opportunity to meet and make friends? Decide in what your life priorities are and try something new, maybe join some clubs, gyms. Etc to meet new people? Good luck OP! Everything will be fine

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During corona? I can’t do that

100% understand where you're coming from OP and have experienced this myself.

If you're doing well off financially, the >1k in rent is worth it for your mental health. Living at home while not traveling had a negative impact on my mental health and a negative impact my relationship with my parents (mostly a ton of resentment on my end).

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I’m not well off financially but I guess I’m doing okay? I don’t make a lot of money and with the job/pay uncertainty as afaik KPMG isn’t doing layoffs but we don’t know the future. I can afford to move out but I feel like it wouldn’t be the best financial move as I feel like I should save money and stay liquid financially

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I’m with parents now as well, been like that for 10 months and definitely feel your comment about regression...had a lot of personal growth and feel like being here I’m stagnant. When it comes to dating bringing up being with parents suck but I try to explain is for savings purposes not bc I can’t afford on my own. But best solution is move out once this is all over its perfect sense to do it after this cools over too

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In all seriousness if it comes up early enough in conversation (like after a day or two) I deflect or say I have roommates (white lie) until I get to know them enough and realize they might be sticking around then I explain to them that I’m doing it for savings purposes

If the prime objective is to save money, you have to adjust with them - it’s like no pain - no gain..
You can try to get local Airbnb for couple of weeks to take a break.

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Good idea

OP, there's nothing wrong with living with your parents! It's an excellent choice since you're not only saving money you're also close to your parents! You can always find your own place when you find a SO and decide to move in with them etc. It's a good choice especially Corona etc. You can help your parents out and always have company. I live very far away from my parents and I wish I could live with them. I'm sorry you're stressed right now. We're all here for you.

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Know any potential SO’s who are interested in 30 year olds living with their parents? Send em my Linkedin! /s

Similar boat OP. Moved back a year ago to save money. Planning on moving back out in the fall hopefully. My social life went from partying and dating girls nonstop to the complete opposite. Thankfully i would go and crash at their place whenever I’d go out. COVID has definitely put all of that on hold, so don’t exactly mind being here now since everyone is in the same boat.

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Thanks for sharing. I’m planning to move out in the next few months if things don’t change with corona

Focus on the big picture. Once this is over and you are certain your job is secure move out. College kids are back home and they have tested my patience. On a positive more family dinners, games and movie nights.

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I don’t think so. I’m a delight

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Move out?

I want to but if I did right now I’d feel even more lonely because of social distancing then I’d feel even more guilty because I’m trying to save for a house and I’d be throwing away $1000+ a month to trade one problem for another

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I was in the same situation. Moved back home to save money, could stand it for 4 months. Spend the $1k in rent to have your own life and be happier. We earn to live a comfortable life - spend a little.

Tbh work was busy enough and I was considering moving out after busy season but then corona hit

Can you funnel money you would’ve spent on rent into, say, a down payment savings fund for a condo? And then you can tell yourself “this is only temporary, and will pay off big time when I have my own place that this helped me save up for”? Or save up for something else you’ve wanted.

I’ve been doing that. I have a separate bank account I don’t touch and I try to put like 1500-2000 a month

Why don’t you find a place to rent on your own,
you sound like you have the financial means? You don’t have to justify moving out, you’re old enough

My conclusion having read the long list of comments is that this is predominantly US cultural thing. My roots are from Europe and Asia and culturally there’s nothing wrong with staying with folks till ~ 30 yrs. Sometimes this is driven out of necessity due to a lack of resources but often it’s not. Parents and their kids healthily thrive and make it work somehow.

Yeah definitely. US citizens with ethnic backgrounds (like myself) usually can relate

Why do You feel depressed? What’s the reason you live with your parents and find it’s uncool?

Or are they annoying you?

Well it was alright when I lived with them but without corona—I could go out to blow steam but we are culturally different and my parents are great people I just regress into a lazy bum when I live at home. It’s so easy to tell someone to man up and get over it than to actually be in the situation.

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