I feel so irritated. I don't care if I work late or weekends because I know what I signed up for, but when I say that I need to work, my friend replies with "🤡" or "🥴" It's my life so I don't know why these reactions are necessary. Our jobs aren't apples to apples, I have a quicker TC trajectory, even if I don't make more yet (he's older), AND most importantly I enjoy my job. But I feel so crappy when he says this & pretty much says I'm stupid for working this much and bugs me about my bonus

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Find new friends. Keeping him around because you “have no one else” is not healthy. That being said, you might need to prioritize making friends (it’s not easy) and having more hobbies outside of work in order to do that and not fall down a rabbit hole. As you mentioned, there are many benefits to grinding (like your early promotion- congrats!!!) but you need to find your circle of friends who will be understanding and supportive and in order to do that, you need to prioritize them over work occasionally (not every time, but it’s a balance).

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Why is he your friend again?

I hear you for sure C1, I appreciate it! D1, bit of both. I felt like I already had gone out and stuff a lot before (I used to have a really chill job, I used to have a lot of social circles but they just kinda weened off) SA1, I hear you as well! Honestly, the TC isn't a biggie to me, but I just mention it to say our jobs and job tracks are very different between my friend and me, esp since he puts so much value on money himself. So these days, it's both! Working longer has paid off for me (I got an accelerated promo), my coworkers are nice, my job is interesting to me. I'll admit occasionally I get fomo but especially now that I feel my friends are kinda nonexistent, I happily accept longer hours.

What would you prefer he respond with? Sympathy?

Just "ok, next time!" Instead of these rude responses. That's how I responded when I had a chill job and friends with busy work schedules. He also just actively probes, "whats your bonus going to be?" And about my TC a lot..and like "only ___$? Lol and I make xxx$ sitting around" I don't want sympathy, I chose my job and worked hard to get it. I just want a friend who respects my decisions. If he really had advice or concern, he could give it like the ladies above did.

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