I feel so lonely - the feeling of starting work tomorrow, while I spent the whole holidays alone and see all my friends partying in Goa and confused about what I want to do in life. Pls help

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Your friends should not be partying while the situation is so bad in India. Drives me insane every time I see posts from back home. You’re literally saving lives by staying away from crowds


Yes, “posts from back home” is referring to Facebook posts of my Indian friends partying in big groups.

I’m not blaming OP for their friends’ recklessness; instead iterating OP and others minimising non-essential travel are the responsible ones


Your friends are partying because they are so lonely they rather risk their health than do the responsible thing. Everyone feels lonely. My husband and I are very introspective individuals with everything we need but still feel lonely even though we love each other tons and live together. Internal loneliness is something we all need to battle and cope up with. I know your situation is a bit different because my own husband used to tell me the difference of being in a new country around your age and a bachelor. I grew up in the US so I can only empathize. It is difficult but it builds a lot of character and time to really understand yourself. And trust me we are also frustrated seeing other people party, my father is 60+ works 7 days a week in a hospital in Brooklyn to do his part to battle the pandemic. Even if it means little, every responsible action helps in this long fight. My own advice after knowing what my husband went through is to distract yourself best as possible and call friends, even ones you’re not super close with, many people are craving connecting at this time.


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Thanks. In your free time you could do a solo road trip to some place you always wanted to see. If you have lived long enough you probably have friends in EU unless you have recently moved there.

OP - feel the same. However, I did not feel bad when I saw my friends partying in Goa except that I gave an earful to one of them this morning for being so irresponsible.

I would rather just feel sad while my friends party than get sick and die of covid. Lets look forward to when we have a better handle on this pandemic

Sorry to hear OP, but are you sad because you’re alone or sad because you don’t know what you want do with your life.

FWIW you’re probably having FOMO than anything else, and that’s what’s eating at you.

I feel you OP - loneliness is the main cause I would guess as in my case - but I keep rejecting that theory to be strong prolonging it

I agree. How do you deal with it. Now that work resumes my mind will be distracted and feel the same again on weekends

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