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I feel so stuck in my life (28F). I just want to find my person and start building a life together. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to. I just want to create holiday memories with my new family and instead, I’m looking at another season with my dysfunctional as hell family. I know a negative attitude and comparing myself to others isn’t helping me, but I can’t seem to lift myself out of my funk…

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Get with some good friends instead and fork some good hobbies. And join some dating sites

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Yeah..I have friends in my city but they’re all very coupled up. I’m fairly active/ social but it’s just like..when will I get my turn?? I’m on the apps and I know it takes a lot of digging but oh my god it is brutal

Do the holidays with friends! That’s what I do and it helps so much!

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I guess I’m lucky. My close girlfriend’s family welcome me with open arms. They call me daughter and invite me on the family vacations. It helps. I hope you can have that one day until you find your person. Hang in there babe 💕

33F here, and I felt the comparison squeeze too. I found my person during COVID when I wasn't looking, but spent the last 4 years without, and the family drama and comments can be tough! It was really lonely when you're in the thick of it, so I feel you, and you can't put a time limit on finding them like you can a weight goal or home/finance goal. You'll get there! Definitely find some meetups, and start dating if you aren't! Also prioritize your own self/comfort and tell your family you are busy after the dinner or whatever celebration the day of. If you travel, go back to your hotel or airbnb. If you dont, make plans after. I have tons of friends who want to grab dinner the day before/after holiday since they feel the same about crazy family. Start reaching out to old friends you haven't seen in awhile. You've got this! It'll come. But start making memories now - and try to put yourself out there! See if someone you're dating wants to make memories, even casually - throw a joint halloween party, plan a Friendsgiving, ask a date to go ice skating or cut down/decorate an xmas tree (if you celebrate). People love fun! You can start now. I have a good friend that throws a "christmas Adam" night (the night before xmas eve) and anyone/everyone in town gets chinese food and then goes to karaeoke as a group! It's a "stragglers/strangers welcome" night and we've met awesome friends there! Get creative and put yourself out there -- You may never know who is also feeling this way.

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