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I feel violated - stepdaughter asked me and my husband to ensure that we’re Covid free prior to traveling to visit her. I assured her we are vaccinated and limit contact with others. A few days later I learned she took her entire family to a sport event where people tested positive for Covid. It seems hypocritical.

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Yes. However, I felt we were being asked to protect her and her family but did not feel she was doing enough to protect us.

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That’s a fair assessment

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She has the power in your relationship and she’s just making sure you know it.

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She may believe that- but her Dad was really even more put off by the situation than I was. He felt it was hypocritical.

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Gotta love a good daughter + stepmom squabble

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honestly with any step relationship, the step dad or mom are emotionally strong people to put themselves in such a situation lol

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If you want to visit her, you abide by her rules. If you don’t like her behaviour, then don’t visit.

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Ask that she be tested if you haven’t already. Unacceptable.

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You should ask her to ensure she is covid free prior to visiting 😂

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Why? Are they vaccinated? Were they outdoors and distanced? Will they take COVID tests prior to your visit?

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They were not outdoors and distanced, which is why I did not feel good about it.

While I have 0 experience with my 0 kids and 0 step kids, I feel I can still opine confidently on this because I have ALMOST been in your daughter’s position. The only thing I’d add is that “don’t attribute to malice what can be attributed to stupidity”. Source: Am stupid.

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If just thoughtlessness than try not to feel violated. And instead brush it off for what it is. Sounds like you two might have had issues in the past though?

Of course it is - you’re her stepmother. Whether your a decent/loving person or not…

I honestly dont know what your concern is if you are vaccinated. 97% of hospitalizations are unvaxed. She may have just been asking if you were vaccinated.

Reading some of your follow ups I apologize- you seem very reasonable here, as does your husband. I’ll admit I am bit biased as I’m on the other side of it- having parental in-laws who we must always abide by their (seemingly ever more inconsiderate) rules. I do think these tough conversations need to happen between blood relatives- in this case your husband has his daughter. Barring that, the only thing I’ve had work for me is limit the amount of “vacations” we take with them. good luck with it.

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I think it’s a fair ask don’t you? You can’t assume she didn’t ask it of others either.

I didn’t have a problem with the question. I respected the request in order to protect the family. What I did not understand was why she would then take her entire family, who she was trying to protect, to a crowded, indoor sport event.

Latest proof that people are losing their minds with COVID. Or maybe now they have an excuse to be the petty **shores they already were idk

If the vaccine works, and you are vaccinated, why do you care?

It’s the principle. Her stepdaughter is being hypocritical. this goes beyond whether she’s been vaccinated or not

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