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I gained over 25 pounds over lockdown, went for drinks with colleagues for the first time since March 2020, and the very next day I had other colleagues messaging me on teams and dropping remarks about how they are walking a lot these days to drop COVID weight. It might be a coincidence but probably not. Feels like my weight was discussed a lot behind my back as no one else in the group of people that went out had gained weight.

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We should care less what other people think. I have a small frame so even with 10 lbs I gained during covid I had no where to hide it. Bought an Apple Watch earlier this year and it really helped me a lot as it reminds me to get up and walk around every hour. And nags me to complete the daily rings. Walking helps. Do it for your own health. Since I still don’t feel comfortable enough to go to the gym I have been forcing myself to do 10k steps a day. 🚶‍♂️

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You can’t control what other people think, say, or do. You can only control how these things make you feel. I think your colleagues think you’d be happier if you dropped the weight (which if you’re honest is probably true) and are subtly suggesting ways in which you could make the change. They’re being nice. It could be worse, then could be sending you pictures of fat bastard from Austin Powers

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Too many of you are missing the point. OP isn’t asking for weight loss advice. They are saying they are uncomfortable that their weight gain was a topic of conversation among their coworkers, behind their back. They may also be upset that they are getting unsolicited advice about it from them (and some of y’all). OP, I would have the same reaction. These are coworkers, not close friends, family or your medical professionals. In your shoes, I’d shut it down with a quick, “That’s great” and change the subject. Or passive aggressively reject meetings one hour a day to go for a walk. That could be fun, too.

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BCG1 - I hope you think my original comment here wasn’t a personal attack on your recommendation to try Keto. It wasn’t. I was trying to point out that, from my perspective, people were focusing on the wrong part of the post as OP had said what they were upset about was their coworkers’ behavior and comments. I wasn’t offended by your comment. I just didn’t think it (and others) addressed what the OP was focused on in their post. I’m happy keto is working for you. Speaking from experience, I found a Keyto monitor and magnesium/potassium supplements personally helpful. Do with that info what you please.

People are going to talk no matter what. Whether it's a new hair style, a new Beau or a new pant size. You gained the weight, so you should focus on whether you want to lose it or not and proceed from there. They seem like nice colleagues who genuinely want you to be healthy, so try not to let your ego hurt and focus on your health instead. Take heart that if they can keep it off, you can take it off.

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hey I am right there with you. i had to buy new clothes today and i’m so discouraged. I gained about 20 lbs since march 2020 and have such low self confidence and self esteem right now. 😔

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Ugh I'm with you. The weird thing is that my best way of losing weight is via competition, it worked a few years ago and I lost 30 lbs in 3 months and kept it off until covid. I'd be interested in doing that again, but I'm moving companies soon hopefully and it's all going to be remote, not sure if my new coworkers would be down.

What people say about you behind your back is none of your business!! Honestly, what can you do, right? Best not worry about it.

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I gained 10-15+ pounds during the pandemic and just started the keto diet last week. So far seems very doable, you can track what you eat easily on MyFitnessPal and hold yourself accountable. Decide to start right now

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It is good! Maybe I will eat my words but highly recommend it. Tracking my food intake has shown me I was eating way more than I really needed to before this. Also the diet enables you to still eat a lot of good foods so I haven’t found it too challenging like I thought. One thing I didn’t under Rand is that it’s not a high protein diet. So eating too much lean meats can be bad. I’ve had to find new ways to get healthy fats without too much protein. Feel free to DM if you want more of a newbies perspective

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Is your weight gain not obvious in zoom calls? Like is it mostly in the lower body? my hunch is you’re just being paranoid. It’s unlikely that they all discussed your weight gain behind your back AND all decided to hint that you should walk more

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Agree with this. Doubt anyone has time to do this. People are generally pretty self-absorbed. Unless you are close with your co-workers and it’s coming from a place of good intention.

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Went from 160 to 203.8 lbs 😔

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I’m you OP. I just went to Cheesecake Factory today as well FML

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Yum!! I’m jealous!

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It could be a coincidence OP. Not trying to invalidate your feeling, but often when we feel self conscious about something we start to pick at our insecurities every where.

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I wouldn't worry about it - just assume your colleagues are trying to help by making useful suggestions. Just use it to spur you on if you actually want to drop some pounds. To be honest, if they didn't like or care about you, they wouldn't say anything at all to you.

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I lost 35 lbs. I credit it to not eating business lunches 3 days a week. I also got motivated when an ER doctor on the news said we should focus on getting in the best shape of our lives in case we get Covid. I wouldn't worry about it too much. People are always judging us on something.

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Eh I’m not sure the two things are related. If one person said something, then maybe, but I would be surprised if more than one was actually rude enough to do that. If you or someone at HH said something about walks or exercise during the day, they could be picking up on that, or it could be in your head. I know about getting absorbed by negative self talk. I’m still bad about it, but I realized that I was the one who cared the most about what my body looked like. Good luck OP.

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I gained 20 too 😞 Super depressed about it

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Lots of great info and motivation on this page.

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Everyone gained weight and we are all feeling bad about ourselves! They were probably posting that stuff because they were thinking about their own weight and how much they want to lose

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How about taking it as motivation for reducing weight? A girl joined our tennis group last week was opened about her reason, she gained 50lbs. She even showed us her photos before covid. Noone talked bad, all supportive. You cannot control others' action but your reaction. Cheer up and take it as a new challenge to conquer.

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OP life is easier when you remember what's are your tasks. Your task is you and what you talk about --- what others do and say has nothing to do with you. That sounds harsh but it's really freeing and uplifting. If you're worried about your weight, that's your task :)

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Hi there, I'm so sorry to hear that you've been experiencing this. Weight gain or weight loss aspects have been thrown so lightly these days. Many people don't realize that everyones body is different. I can walk for 5 days straight and lose so little pounds, while you walk for 2 days and lose more. Own your current weight, its apart of you, when you feel you are ready to lose weight that should be your decision. And if your colleagues are really concerned for you, they should have a direct conversation with you, you are an adult after all and talking behind your back is just plain wrong. In my opinion, there's two ways to find out what their intentions are, take the invite for the walk and go walk once. And if their intentions were purely based on looks, you'll hear all their "I'm so glad you came out and walked with us, we didn't want to say anything" comments or you can reject their offer and if its a true concern from them, they'll speak directly to you. There's also the option for you to speak with them directly and hear their reasons and intentions. This is just my two cents, you are in No way obligated to use it or take advice from it. Stay strong and own the current you, cause that current you is fearce henty 👏

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I see, but what better way to test intentions, if they take the walk with their colleagues and hear their intentions directly from them. People are more likely to blurt information when they feel they have completed their goal. In this case, their goal was to get OP to walk, so they will be more likely to "spill the tea" on their intentions for OP while walking.

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Being someone on the other side of the coin, (I made it a point to lose the COVID weight I put on) I think your colleagues are bonding over something a lot of people are going through: losing the weight almost all of us put on during the lockdowns. I don’t think they would intentionally be talking about you; it probably seems like they are because you seem to be very self conscious about the weight you gained. I would ask to see if you can join them during their walks, and also be looking for a safe diet plan to follow. I ended up losing 50 lbs by watching what I eat and doing intermittent fasting; losing weight is easy in the sense that calories in > calories used and you will lose weight. And now that I lost the weight (I am at the same weight I was for my wedding!) I have been doing activities to keep it under control, such as CrossFit (it’s actually fun!) TL;DR version: they most likely aren’t talking about you, find a good diet plan to drop the weight, and also look for fun activities to help keep your weight under control

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We adopted a dog in May, 2020. He's been taking us for a walk twice a day. Lost a few lbs. Something to think about.

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I also adopted a dog but she just loves to sleep. I end up sleeping more cuddling her

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