I get angry pretty quick and it gets really difficult for me to handle when my boss gives me a earful. Everyone goes through this; how do you handle such situations after the encounter? Help

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Learn to recognize your triggers and physical responses. When you learn them they tip you off before you mentally get angry and you can make changes to adjust. Mine is a pulse of electricity up my spine. Then I focus on something else before I got full Hulk and ruin my nice slacks.

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I got angry pretty easy too (for example I’m always impatient if there’s a line for airport security). However I never took things personally and always forgot about work after go home. I told myself: I’m not changing the world and doing something that people will remember me for decades. I’m just a normal person who try to earn a living. Life is so short that I don’t want to waste on unnecessary, or unrelated things. So I just work, take the money, and enjoy myself.

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Grow up. Not being facetious. I'm 42 years old and have found the older I get, the less I lose my cool over stupid stuff. Learned it's better to pick my battles and just accept that I don't need to control everything. Of course the pendulum is bound to swing the other direction and soon I'll be yelling at the neighbor's kids to keep off my damn lawn.

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L Theanine every Monday morning

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Do you recognize when it happens or is it more in hindsight? I recognize when I get frustrated and try to consciously pause then take a step back and get my point across in another, less angry/frustrated/personal way

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You just need asshole client...than other things will look normal

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Stop giving a shit, nothing to get angry or stress over

Omg - if you don’t get angry and it’s part of you, you don’t care.

I'm the same way, but with my peers.I get angry quick and respond before thinking. I've learned to not take it personally and try to take a few beats before responding or reacting. Or to step away and vent to an impartial third party if I can't get myself together.

Train yourself to first say, “[Partner], thanks for the feedback..." Something about starting your response on a positive note sets up the rest of the conversation well

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