I get extremely anxious talking to partners/manager. Part of me feels like they are superior and can see through my BS. Any tips to help this? I always find myself lacking confidence in those meetings and am rambling nonsense because of how nervous I am.

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The feelings are mutual OP, we hope you can’t see through our BS either.

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We are also full of BS! Just study your material beforehand, practice with a peer, and I guarantee you know it better than us!

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They can definitely see through your bs because you can't bser.

Partners are the top performers when it comes to laying the bs thick.

Just think about everything you make up on a day to day. The pull far more out of the asses on a daily basis.

It's ok, you'll be fine.

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Just know that they BS just as much (if not more) with actual clients. If you’re knowledgeable on the topic then you should be fine, just try to speak in bullet points to keep your thoughts organized. If you are unsure, be honest with your answer but showcase how you plan to get the answer. I’m unsure about this, but plan on reaching out to x person or doing x analysis

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Quarantine has helped. Makes you realize they have the same problems, weird lamps, cats, etc that you do. Try and remember that the person you’re afraid of drives a Prius and listens to NPR and eats leftover Mac and cheese.

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I used to do the same but I realize in order to move up in the world, I need to get comfortable interacting with high level executives, from partners to CEOs. Couple things to consider:

1. Best way to get over anxiety is to walk in prepared. Partners don't expect you to know everything but they want you to articulate what you do know. If you can adequately cover what you are responsible for, its OK to say I don't know for other things. Brownie points if you can think ahead and cover topics that are beyond your own responsibilities.

2. Practice, practice, practice. Now that you recognize your anxiety, its time to double down and keep throwing yourself in front of these situations. By sheer volume, you'll get more comfortable as you get to know your managers and partners better. You'll learn their thinking pattern and needs. That will drive more natural conversations and reduce your anxiety.

3. Talk more with everybody. You'll learn the best ways to communicate by communicating more. Not only with higher up but with peers as well. Its a more comfortable way to ramp up your game.

DM if you need more advice on this topic. I used to be in the same boat. So I feel your pain.

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They can see through your BS so it’s normal to feel that way.

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Try to interact with people high up the ladder (directors, partners, CEO, Chief whatever) outside of a purely business context. You should be able to feel quite quickly that these are people just like everyone else. They usually appreciate people who are witty, funny, but most of all are genuine. In my experience, the higher up the more a person appreciates someone who isn’t afraid of giving pushback and speaking their mind.

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This is true. Partners really appreciated me speaking my mind and not afraid to push back when I saw something wrong while everyone else was a wallflower. IDGAF who they are. Because of that they gave me tons more respect and positive reviews.

Try to get to know them a little bit, like see the human factor 1st then the work , one of my partners is a cat guy so that was my hook

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I'm the same!

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They're not special, just different. Be yourself

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Don’t BS. Don’t waste my time. Come prepared. Be succinct. Ask good questions. Tell me where I can help. Be honest when you don’t know something, and proactive about a plan to close that gap if needed.

I generally don’t have time to shoot the sh*t, so anticipate you’re coming with an update (this is the status, here’s the risks, here my plan for completing/mitigating/staffing etc), a question, a request, or a mix of all. Make sure you know and be aware it’s helpful to state what you need in the first 5 min.

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Imagine them naked when talking to them.

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LOL

Used to feel like this. Better now

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Talking to them like people, owning mistakes and fixing. Asking for help/being transparent.

As cliche as it sounds, you just have to keep faking it until you make it. I’ve also been pleasantly surprised by partners’ openness and respect when I’m my most authentic self. I know it’s hard for many, and maybe I’ve just gotten lucky with the partners I work for, but I truly believe that vulnerability begets vulnerability. It was really scary at first to be honest with them about all the ways I struggle and feel like an imposter, but once I broke that dam I’ve gotten only positive and supportive reactions. Some have even shared with me their own insecurities and failures, which has helped me realize no one actually knows what they’re doing ever 😂 I often feel like they value my opinion more because they know I won’t talk out of my ass!

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I still feel that way often although not AS much these days. Mostly, I keep quiet unless I have something substantive to contribute I have knowledge on. As you gain experience, I think you become more comfortable with what you know. I’m also not an “on the spot” thinker, so I have dealt with that by volunteering to look into something and following up. Just keep learning and maybe brush up on issues that often come up in your practice on the side so you have some talking points in casual conversations.

The key to confidence is to BS with confidence. At our level, we’re not really expected to know everything. But they do expect us to research and try to understand and come up with our own solutions. Even though I know I could be wrong, I present my ideas with confidence. Surprisingly, sometimes it works and they go through with my plan lol.

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