I got good book but bad personality. So much so, I'm losing work because of it. Do therapists help fix that sort of thing?

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They didn’t fix mine. Or mine. Or mine. I found it helped me, though.

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At least you’re aware! Self-awareness is the first step. Therapists help root out problems and give you solutions for how to tackle the issue, but (obviously) the hard work is more gonna be a mental challenge on your part.

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Yes they do. Confident, emotionally stable people rarely are jerks.

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Meditation. David Lynch foundation

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Take more psychedelics and stop taking stimulants. You need to destroy your ego if you want to change for real.

Everyone above is just bullshitting you with cute HR friendly solutions.

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I don’t think there’s any such thing as a bad personality. Sometimes it’s just about figuring out how to communicate differently. In my career I’ve discovered that the way creatives interact with each other doesn’t necessarily work well with all people outside of the department. We’re used to having our ideas shot down and taking it on the chin. Try to think of it not as you’re personality is wrong and instead consider that your delivery is off-putting. Try to make sure people know you’re hearing them and value their opinion even when you disagree. Maybe that’s not what’s going on with you, but I struggle with feedback that I’m negative and difficult to work with when in my mind I’m defending the work and trying to productively challenge the process or direction.

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Preach!

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Can you define what you mean by bad personality?

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The first step is self awareness

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The “talented asshole” no longer seems welcome in this industry. At least that’s what a lot of agencies say, yet I still see talented assholes employed. But that’s another argument.

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That's solid advice. Thank you!

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Read “working with emotional intelligence” basically shows how emo and soft skills are key predictor of success in all realms, because everything is a team sport. Good luck! (Oh also I’m a life coach who can help if you’d like to discuss )

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True assholes don’t know they are assholes, so bravo to you for self-awareness OP. I recommend “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. A little dated, but it’s pure fucking gold for smoothing out rough people.

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Won’t hurt.

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If you’re cute that kinda helps with the personality issue ;))

Haha I’m kiddinggggg 🙃 nobody likes jerks

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I don’t think it’s enough to acknowledge that you’re off-putting. I guess my question would be why do you think you’re a jerk to your colleagues? Do you not respect their opinions?

Therapy is self care. If you've identified an issue get a pro to help you out. If you have a stiff neck you go to the chiropractor or a masseuse. If you have a bad personality and you don't know how to transform, you go to a therapist.

Try a coach

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