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I had an opportunity to go on a date with a billionaire, but I’m engaged to someone else. But Technically wasn’t a date because we were kind of in a group setting. The billionaire guy knows I’m engaged but I know we could have a connection if we wanted to but we are being very careful. He made one comment about how attractive I am. There’s nothing wrong with my fiancé and we’ve been together for 3 years. But I just can’t stop thinking about the what ifs. Cont.

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I'd say re-evaluate the relationship first, and independently of the "billionaire":

You say there's "nothing wrong" with your fiancé - but you don't say you're madly in love with him. You also point out some potential compatibility issues.

One long-shot chance at a date with one guy - "billionaire" or not - who has one attractive trait, and you have doubts.

Are you sure you want to get married to this man, OP? I would personally advise you to think this over! Are you in love with him or do you just not want to be alone.

"Billionaire" is a red herring, in my opinion. If I had a penny for every time someone casually told me I was attractive "in a group setting", I might be a billionaire in my own right by now. Men will say that sort of stuff when trying to get into your pants.

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Girl life is short but money isn’t everything. Postpone this engagement until you get to know the billionaire more. I’m kidding 😅

From personal experiences I’ve dated a wealthy doctor and he was the most gentle, respectful, romantic guy, and great in bed 😌! However, he wanted to date me and other women until he was ready to settle down. I wanted more out the relationship! Needless to say on paper he was the perfect package but morally I couldn’t continue on with him!! Of course, I miss 2am left over Pad Thai after being up all night 😏 but I had to leave because I value monogamy!

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Have you seen the Tinder Swindler?!

Also, just because someone likes you, doesn’t mean you can actually build a relationship with them, you have had 3 years worth of life with your fiancé, don’t throw it away.

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Eeexactly!

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Just imagine if your fiance posted this:

I had the opportunity to go on a date with a supermodel, but I'm engaged to someone else. But technically it wasn't a date because we were kind of in a group setting. The supermodel knows I'm engaged, but I know that we could have a connection if we wanted to but we are being very careful. She made one a comment about how hot I am. There's nothing wrong with my fiancee and we've been together for 3 years. But I can't stop thinking about the what ifs.

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I wouldn’t say beautiful women can get away with being bitchy… at least not on the job.

How you get them is how you lose them.

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Bingo 🙅🏻‍♀️

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Remember there is a big difference between a guy flirting and telling you what you want to hear and meaning it. Do you have a history outside of this interaction? If not, most guys who say all this stuff in the first interaction are just playing games. Especially very rich men with their pick of women.

Separate from this situation, you may want to consider if you want to be with your fiancé. If one interaction with a rich man has you reconsider marrying him you may have a lot going on that needs to be addressed.

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Sounds like you should let your fiance go be with someone who values him more than a stranger's bank account

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This sounds like you are daydreaming in hypotheticals.

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**Billionaire** 😂

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LOL. A mess.

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You keep referring to him as his financial status. Sure sounds like you could have had a “connection” only because he’s a billionaire. Be honest with yourself, and then realistic.

Men know some women are hyper focused on financial status and often lure women in with that. Would he really want to be with someone who is ready to give up an entire engagement for a stranger, just because he thinks you’re attractive?

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I think OP is doing the manipulation here

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When the Billionaire told me what he looks for in his future wife I feel like he was talking about me. Lol like i met all his checkboxes and I can’t seem to shrug that off.

I also want to have kids now but like my fiancé doesn’t want to have kids anytime soon like in 3 years? While the billionaire wants to have kids like immediately and retire with his girl. Ugh.

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Dude you don’t deserve your fiancé or the billionaire. Period.

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“There’s nothing wrong with my fiancé” doesn’t sound compelling. Do you want to spend your life with him? If you’re unsure, maybe you should reevaluate that commitment.

It could be useful to get to know the billionaire in a group setting to see if there is a genuine attraction. However, don’t let the money be your decision maker. Some wealthy men will dangle their money like the proverbial carrot, and never let you touch it.

Seems like you should evaluate the engagement anyway. There needs to be a compelling reason why you’re with your spouse, especially in the unexpected tough times. Love, personality, attraction are all good qualities. Money shouldn’t be a decision maker, just a nice bonus.

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No. Once you get to a certain level of money, it doesn’t really affect your life that much anymore. I would put that around $15M, leaving generational wealth transfer goals out of it.

First ask yourself, would you abandon your fiancé for someone with $15M?

Then ask yourself, why would you entertain a man who hits on an engaged woman?

If you proceed with this you will end up with what you deserve.

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WHEW THIS! It’s the lack of respect for me. If he is willing to hit on you while you’re engaged you’re not the first, and if you were the wife there is nothing to protect you from him doing that to the next naive single/engaged/married woman he finds attractive! Lose them how you get them

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Dump your fiancé and get with this rich man. Please make me your maid of honor and we will have a blast.

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PWC2: thank you for the laugh! I really needed it after a tense meeting.

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To be clear, is your relationship with your fiancé going well? Are you in love with him?

I only ask because I’m concerned about the ability for this billionaire to captivate you in this way before you’re actually married. What will you do when you are officially married? Some men really don’t care if your engaged, married, widowed etc. They will try and weasel their way in when they want to.

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Sounds like his only attractive quality was being a billionaire. Would he still be that attractive to you if he was a billionaire in a wheelchair? Or blind? Sorry but you sound v shallow.

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Yep good point

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OP you should totally go for it!!! I’m sure your fiancé will understand/take you back even if it doesn’t work out. You had to shoot your shot right? Plus clearly you are hot stuff!
Just keep us looped in, is my only ask
🍿🍿🍿

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If I was your fiancee I would say. Go for it. I am good with being your lover! Hahah

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Just watch… if you leave your fiancé for him, he will decide soon that he could never be with someone who would abandon everything for a chance at his money. He’s playing a game with you, and even if he’s serious, do you want to be with a dude who hits on everyone else around you, married or not? Your partner’s money/lifestyle won’t be the thing that makes you happy. If you want early retirement that badly, go earn it for yourself.

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Girl bye

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You dropped this queen 👑

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If you dump your fiancé for him and then he’s like nahhhhhh would you feel regret or say “hey at least I tried”? Go with that.
Additional points to consider: - you have known this guy for years (as a mentor??) and he never expressed interest and now your engaged. Is he just trying for you for off limits sex / the chase?
- if you can’t have kids, will he drop you like a hot potato?
- if you have health issues, will he stand by you?
- if he loses all his money in a bad deal would you still want to be with him?

If not, maybe reconsider.

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Or, you know, if you age. Like we all do.

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I think I painted a picture where it seems like I just met this guy lol. We are actually friends and yes I’ve seen his portfolio. He actually even let me and my girlfriends stay at one of his penthouses. He likes the fact that I’m grounded and have substance. He acts like a mentor to me

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Good question

I got an email from a Prince in Nigeria. He says he’ll marry me and give riches beyond my imagination if I just send him 10k.

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