I had been talking to a guy since the past couple of days. We both expressed we liked each other and would talk on and off the entire day. And now suddenly there’s complete silence from his end. This is the second time I have been ghosted. Is it just me? Am I doing something wrong?

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No, people ghost for reasons entirely independent of who you are and what you’re doing. This is the f…ed up reality we have to live with unfortunately

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Sorry this happened. This could happen for a number of reasons that have nothing to do with you.

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I’ve had multiple guys ask me out and then ghost me. Try not to waste too much time figuring out why. Sometimes there is no logical answer.

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Have you met in person or online? It can become tiring sometimes to keep up convos all day with people, especially when you just are starting to get to know each other. a few hours or a day or two gap is very normal, but I agree it sucks to be left hanging. I’d leave it be but if he replies maybe match his speed of communication if he is slowing down the frequency

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How long has it been since you’ve heard from him? Did the last conversation come to a natural end?

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What is ghosted for you through? For me it would be a week. As others have said, any number of things could have come up on his end to distract him. But if a week goes by and you haven’t talked to him, then maybe it’s time to move on. I also think it’s unfair to put the onus on the guy to always start the conversation or pick it up. It is okay to show interest if you see potential in someone and text him again even if he didn’t reply to your last text from a few days ago. He likely has not put in as much thought into the timing as you have

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He might not have ghosted you if he just didn’t reply within a day. We’re all busy and life can be a bit much some days. If he doesn’t reply within a couple days, just text him again. If he doesn’t reply to that, then maybe you did get ghosted. People do it for a lot of reasons but it usually doesn’t have to do with you. You’re better off spending your time on someone who can be consistent and match your energy

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