I had something traumatic happen and don’t feel comfortable sharing personal information to the team. I need some time to collect myself but what is the best way to gain empathy?

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Family emergency - need to take a few days

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This, take the rest of the week at least

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Sorry hear, OP. I don’t think you need to get too specific - ie I need to take some time off for personal reasons.

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Honestly, I wouldn’t expect empathy from coworkers/bosses. But agreed that you can say something like “I apologize for the inconvenience but I am going through a family emergency/health emergency/personal emergency which necessitates a few days off and will not be able to return to work until X date. I appreciate your understanding. [I’m available by cell phone in case of emergency]” or some such is fine to say without getting into too many details and they should respect that. Only include the offer to be in touch by cell phone if you feel up to it. If they ask for details just say you don’t feel comfortable sharing yet.

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Hey- short term leave. If you have a mental health provider they can advocate on your behalf and you don’t need to provide details to the team

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They’ll know. HR tells the top guys without leaving any audit trail (or at least they think it’s not provable) . There’ll be retribution at some point, but if you are smart enough, you’ll be able to navigate. Regardless, your and your family’s health and safety comes first.

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