I hate a person I work with. They are mean and passive aggressive to me. I took 2 months of STD to get away from this person & get my head straight. Came back about a month ago & started a new engagement that didn't include this person. I was SO happy. It was short lived. This person is now a part of the engagement. I got a job offer today making $12k less plus it is for only a Sr consultant. I'm going to accept to get away from this person. I think my mental health is priceless. Thoughts?

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Make a development plan to move somewhere that your are passionate about that you won’t have to work with them

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Development plan to stay at the same company as this person? I wish I could but this person is a "higher up" and unless I move to a new service line, I will have to worry about working with them.

If you can stick it out a bit longer maybe try to find a job that’s a pay raise or title lateral or bump, at the very least. Places are hiring so don’t take the first offer out of desperation.

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Ps- I know the grass isn't always greener but this is at least a chance at mental health.

What firm is this? Have you reported them to HR? No one is worth this much stress.

I have not reported them. This person I liked by others so doubt anything will happen. It just isn't worth it to fight a losing battle.... Or at least that is what I assume would happen. Think I'm just going to leave with grace and do something for less money with Hopefully a better match.

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Did being on antidepressants affect your sex life?

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