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I have 3 bonus kids and 2 bio kids. I am counting the days until my youngest bonus kid leaves the nest.

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OP, that’s so rude. I was a bonus kid and as a step parent literally all you have to do is not be a jerk. Having an attitude like that is why Cinderella was written.

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Hey guys. I was a...Bonus kid. Just letting you know, it's just nice to have someone there. It's makes a big difference. Just don't hit their mom or something and we'll usually love you even if it can be confusing.

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CPI - I hope you had and still have a strong relationship with your step parent, and I hope the same for me and my stepson. I’m actually the stepmom who has him full time, which is a bit of an unusual dynamic and it’s been harder to work through things as he’s hitting his preteen years, but definitely hope he knows I’m always here for him. Also FWIW I’m not a big fan of the term “bonus kid” bc he’s just my kid.

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What’s a bonus kid

Usually a step child or foster or adoption, etc

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I feel you. I have one step-son and two bio kids and the step child is with us about 95% of the time. I of course love him but it’s not easy being a step parent...

Did you know you were getting three bonus kids when you met BIO baby Daddy? Probably. Be creative and use this time to connect with them. Kids know what’s up. Don’t divide the kids they are their own family when you leave this earth. Can we all appreciate what we have, if we have anything? Family, extra family, a job, a pantry of food... sunshine.

I love my older 4 children. The youngest (17.75 years old) is an aggressive, manipulative dick. Always in slight trouble for berating someone online, slightly mocking some girl, sending a slightly inappropriate email with a picture to the entire sports team... it’s only going to get worse. (PS: don’t blame his father... his father is beyond reproach. This is some combo of nature/nurture but it’s not his dad). All of us in our team of 7 are good folks, but he’s a bad-ish seed and I want him gone from our house. Counting days.

He is the middle child looking for where he should fit in, is he a bio kid or an outsider within Dads new family? His behavior screams that he wants to be noticed within the family. Try acceptance & loving him. We all know 18 is a tough age. Make morning coffee runs with him? Then see if he needs therapy! Ofc you don’t blame the sperm donor. The father should be more involved if you’re here bitching about “his” kids. OR get him gone and have fun with that fallout.

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