i have a close high school friend that joined the seals after high school and disappeared. we figured she/he was busy on missions and overseas. recently found out they have been in the states the whole time and partying a lot. should i take this ghosting personally?

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Get your own life and don’t follow folks who don’t include you in their plans

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Things change when you join the military, especially if you're in small and especially tight knit groups like special operations. They work, live, train, and hang together. And they likely still are traveling and deploying. They can get called out for training all around the US or internationally for weeks at a time often, and you're unlikely to hear about it. They're in a much different place in their lives now. Doesn't mean they're not your friend anymore, or this is where your friendship with them stops, but their priorities for now have shifted and they may not shift back until they're out. Or they just need to party and get this phase out of their system. No clue on the latter as you didn't say how old they are, how long they've been in, etc.

Initial training is also over a year, and specialized training is another 18+ months. Again, no clue how long they've been in, but training is a bulk of their life.

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Umm no? None of your beeswax

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It’s not terribly uncommon for people to lose touch with their high school friends

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How many years in are they? Also, 100% certainty they’re male because no woman has made it through BUD/S.

Green team training thereafter lasts for ~1-2 years as BUD/S graduates are trained and placed on a SEAL team. That’s usually done stateside at a number of specialized academies. Yes, there is a huge party culture within NAVSPECWAR, much more than other units in SOCOM, but that’s neither here nor there

However… elephant in the room is they probably washed out of the program and were then placed in a different and more permissive MOS at the direction of Uncle Sam.

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Lol, then they may be legit. Fairly on brand for those guys.

There’s a huge professionalism row within the elite operations community where the Army, Air Force, and CIA have severe issues with the way the Navy manages its SEALs. There’s a list of issues a mile long that Admiral McRaven tried to reform when he was still in, and word on the street is it’s why Delta Force was chosen to raid al-Baghdadi’s compound. Neptune Spear was an OPSEC disaster

Damn they living the LIFE 😂

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ok thanks

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i was more asking if this a requirement in these types of units

No, there is no requirement to leave your friends and family behind, or distance yourself from them. They’re making a conscious decision OR are just wrapped up with living in the moment.

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They could be in an assignment cover... seals are attractive candidates for the intelligence community.

*Maybe* former ones, but SEALs in general aren’t good candidates for the IC, as their mission is built around high-intensity dynamic raids as part of a team. They have very limited covert capability, don’t emphasize cultural immersion, and are tied to SOCOM anyways.

US Army Special Forces and CIA’s CAG are built around covert kinetic operations.

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