I have a few problems šŸ  help me out here:
Iā€™m 24, and have been with my gf for nearly 3 years. I feel sheā€™s the one, and she wants to get married in the next 2 years. Now, my concerns:
- If I get married soon, Iā€™ll never be able to experience the single life again. I still want to travel and work abroad and have new adventures
- We donā€™t see eye to eye on what our end goal is. I want a power couple, but she wants to be stay at home wife/mom after 30

All else, sheā€™s perfect. What can I do here?

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It sounds like you guys have very different visions of what you want your future to be and it definitely doesn't sound like you guys are ready to get married yet.

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You may become bitter if she decides to stop working and you have to be solely responsible for financially supporting her and the family. She may become bitter if she has to keep working though. You guys are very young, no need to rush.

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If you guys disagree on the end goal then sheā€™s probably not the one. Not trying to burst your bubble, but agreeing on what you want long term is basically everything. Respect and having mutual long term interest/goals is what keeps people together.

I think missing the single life, traveling, freedom, is all natural. Itā€™s your 20s, you want to explore life as an adult. I will say that the right person should knock your socks off and make you feel like you want to do all those things with them, not on your own. If you feel like getting married with limit you, donā€™t do it. Go do those things. Advocate for your adventures and growth. Donā€™t miss out on opportunities that literally come once in a lifetime.

I will also say, you are 24. You are young. You have time to figure these things out. Donā€™t rush to marry because it seems like itā€™s time. Do it because you love them and itā€™s the next step you want to take, not for pressure or because itā€™s supposed to be time.

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Good advice

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Whatā€™s going to happen is the two of you will compromise.....and sheā€™ll get exactly what she wants

I take it this happened to you and you resent it?

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How do you expect people to give advice with such little context. Boobs?

Iā€™ll take your gf off your hands for you

Meh half of the women I went to (a very fancy) business school with have stopped working or will stop working. Those who still work, including myself, sometimes ponder what it is like not to work and I donā€™t even have children yet!

Point is, womenā€™s priorities will change whether she tells you upfront or not. ā€œPower coupleā€ is easier said than done.

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