I have a friend who lives inside my head. Every time I think of doing something important, be it a career move, who I date, where I live, I think: what will he think of that? I’m basing so much of what I do off how he will perceive it. I try to fight and ignore it but it’s agonizing and I don’t know how to let it go. We don’t even live in the same country anymore and don’t speak regularly, but we were close throughout high school and college.

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Have you tried going to a doctor? Hearing voices in your head is typically not normal.

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So is this a real person you were friends with but kinda fell off with, but still think about how they would perceive your life and?

Or a totally fake person?

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The former

Mine is named Roger.

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Wait wut

Sounds like you had/have a major crush on them

If it's someone you worked for, learned from and respected, no harm in thinking what would they think and I think others do this too. But you're more experienced now, so maybe just go with your own moral compass.

He was a friend, an equal, we’re the same age

Sorry, I don’t mean I literally hear voices in my head, that was metaphorical. Yes he is a real person. I meant that he has a lot of influence over me. I compare myself to him constantly and always strive to do better than him, my measure of success has partly become “am I better than him?”

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