I have a session with my manager (male, VP level) next week to provide “upward performance/development feedback.” Does anyone here have any great advice based on their own experience (what to do, or more importantly, what to avoid / not do)?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Here is what I expect from my skip level calls.
1. be transparent but with areas where you see what you can help. Don’t just come with complaints.
2. Upward feedback should not be a complain session. It should be constructive.
3. This is your time to do a humble brag. Talk about what you have been doing.
4. People aren’t mind readers. Talk about what you want to do next.
5. Always have an ask. Give them an action item.

Number 5 for me was always an Indicator of how well the person came prepared for the discussion.

Edit: the best one I ever had was with one person who came with a board. Walking through the above. It was great to have a visual and an opportunity to see how well thought out the discussion was.

likehelpful

OP: I’d come in then with what would a biz review. How have things been working and progress that has been made etc.

like

I try to round out my skip level with things that have been working well and things that have not, plus just a general overview of my team, what we've been working on, other teams we've been partnering with, successes, failures etc. My CTO is very into management and the psychology behind it, so I often use that time to pick his brain about ways I can grow my management skill set in order for my own personal growth and my teams' growth.

My first ever meeting I definitely got advice from those that had had successful meetings with him before and tailored my first conversation based on that advice. From there I was able to feel out which parts of the conversation he seemed most interested in, and now I try to focus almost exclusively on those.

Related Posts

Can someone help me with designation hierarchy in L&T infotech.

What is grade P3 and p4 and details around it ?

like

Does anyone work for Hanover insurance ?

like

New to investing. Please suggest an awesome newsletter to start with. I’m planning to buy a premium subscription of $79 yearly for the Oxford Income Letter. Any suggestions that are better than this newsletter.

like

What are your salaries?

like

Any minority recruiters/HR who can truthfully confirm if checking off an ethnicity when submitting a job application matters or is it better off to mark "Prefer not to say" for a better chance of getting follow-ups?

like

What do you do with a candidate accepting an offer and sending all her documents only to ghost us a few days before joining? Should we call her emergency number? She hasnt rescinded the offer but seemed to have rather “disappeared” and not responding to emails, text, VM or calls

Thinking of moving from NYC to Houston. I am a 26 yr old female. Do you guys like living in houston/feel as if there’s enough to do as a young person, etc. Open to any real thoughts on living in Houston/making a new life here coming from a different city.

like

What is the appropriate number of YOE before earning/awarding the title of “senior corporate counsel?”

like

Hi All,

I received below mail from ey gds. Can I consider this as rejection mail or there is any chance of being selected?

Post Photo
like

Due in 2 weeks with baby number two, husband just tested positive for Covid 😩 He’s been around me and our 2 year old the past 2 days, getting PCRs for me and my LO tomorrow. Freaking out is an understatement. We had our first in May 2020 and never thought we’d still be going through this 2 years later. Anyone know anyone whose delivered or had a c section with Covid? Looking for some encouragement everything will work out okay. This is crazily the first time we’ve had it!

like
like

Tell me if this is selfish or not. I adore my family, but since they're doing a very lowkey Christmas situation this year, I really would rather take a weeks vacation on my own. Obviously the holidays are about spending time with those you love, but I'm tired! And I see my entire family at least once a month for a group dinner. Am I a bad daughter/sister if I choose vacation this one time?

like

Any tips for negotiating for a pay adjustment? I believe I am getting paid less than my male counterparts.

like

Wanting to get out of fed space. I am a data scientist with 5YOE. What are good companies to look for in DC area that’d hire someone with gov consulting experience?

like

Report is out. Medical Care Practitioner was the top suggestion followed by Physician Associate. Praxician was, expectedly, widely panned. Let the debates begin....

like

Wow! This bowl exists. I am so happy.

likeuplifting

Hi fishies , I have total of 3.5 yrs data engineering experience and total It experience is 7 years.
I have offer from quantiphi,tiger analytics and impetus Technology.
Wanted to know if anyone can help me out which company should I choose?
Which firm is better for career growth ,learning and work life balance ?

like

Who’s at freehold today, I’m by the bar in a sports coat.

like

Hi just join Fishbowl. I am not able to message as of now. Can y’all please send some love to this post? Thank you 😊🙏🏼

likeuplifting

Am I the only one that doesn’t like the smell of essential oils? They’re always touted as refreshing, relaxing, magical, the best scent for home, etc etc. They all smell the same to me: medicinal and crunchy. Tried countless and never found one I like. Guess I’m destined to breathe in toxic artificial “midnight sands” fumes.

like

Additional Posts in Women in Tech

How do you set your career on an upward trajectory in growth start up companies where experience and historical titles are not correlated? How do you gain influence as someone without a fancy title but plenty of contributions (which is thankfully noticed)?

like

Hey Ladies!

Wanted to drop in and ask if anyone is burnout from work and wants support?
I used to be the VP at Grow Team and I left to start my own company serving women in corporate. Just wanted to let everyone know in case one of you is burnt out & ready to get out of survival mode ⚡️⚡️
Xo

like

Any product/ux recruiters out there? I’m a product designer with 6 years of general experience in B2B Sales SaaS products, 3 focused in product design. I’m looking to make a jump from mid to senior level in a highly collaborative environment with potential for management opportunities in the future. Thank you!

I work on a small 4 person remote team- 2 peers and our manager. My 2 peers were recently hired and started in February this year. I actually trained them since I have held that position (Manager). I have been at the company for 6 years and moved to a Sr. IC role. My skip-level was previously my direct manager. My manager told us about a plan to meet up in person this summer for team building. It slipped in a meeting today that everyone but me is included in going. More in comments.

like
like

Why is it so hard to get a call back? I’ve applied for hundreds of positions and asked for referrals and followed up so many times… I have a really solid resume and currently work for a company that’s known for high standards. Is anyone else struggling to find a better job right now?

like

I’m looking for a referral or gain insights into a role at Google, Supportability Program Manager position. I have 2 yrs of work experience building sales Ops pipeline and running startup program! Thank you so much!

like

Does anyone have experience interviewing with Playstation for a non-developer, non software engineer role? I’m in the final stages of a Product Management aligned role and I am trying to best prepare myself. The recruiter has been really great, informative, and supportive so far.

like

Did any of you make the jump or are thinking of moving into product management? Any tips on positioning myself for an exit opp in product management?

like

Would anyone be able to provide a referral and/or provide insight for a Google Project Manager role? I just know this role would be perfect/a dream (based on the description) and I’m hustling looking for my way in to Google. Would appreciate any help so much!

like

What have been your reasons for quitting a job in the past? I’m still deciding, not 100% sure (been 10 months). Mostly for me it’s comp and it’s not right fit, I think...

Ok, I’ve come to the point where I’ve realized its ok to ask for help. Or, at least some advice. I’m just half a year into my PM journey…and I feel like im doing terrible at it. I’ve lost sight of what PMing is…I’m worried and dont know how to move forward. I want to be an amazing PM, but how?

likehelpful

I don’t need to be recognized for my work. You can either give me props or you don’t have to. But recognizing someone else for my work sets me on fire🔥. Is there a term for this? I need tools to help me calm down in these situations. I have the same reaction for other people and their work.

like

Cont'd

I was hired to work at Pluralsight and started as an Entry level GTM Analyst in December. As an entry level hire, the company made promises to train and coach me which made me feel supported and great about my new job. One week into my new role, my direct boss who was supposed to be my coach and mentor quit, and there was an additional change in leadership. The event of my boss quitting, and the change in leadership led to a change in direction within the org.

like

Hello! Looking for book recommendations for how to manage people well. I’m starting my first job soon with direct reports and I want to be a good manager because I know how bad it can be to have a bad one. I really liked Radical Candor, so looking for recommendations from other managers for books that have really stuck with you and helped. I know it’s a hard skill to learn from a book, but better than nothing. Thanks!!

like

Anyone hiring for any tech jobs?

Is there anyone here who's part of the Women of Mozilla group? Or even someone who works in Mozilla?

like

Hi, I need your honest opinion on this. Currently I have done AWS cloud practitioner certificate and want to progress but I don't think to like Solution Architect that much, I feel it will be boring for me. I love to create things, and love data manipulation, so I found this course in Google data engineer + AI... I feel it might be good fit for me. What do you think about it. Am looking for something I can study and stick with it long run. Thanks 😊.

like

Facing a bit of a dilemma and looking for some advice. I recently took a new job and was told the role was a support engineer to interface between a large customer and internal developers for various company products. I have been here for a few months and I've been finding out that my real job is going to involve long protracted INTERNAL battles because the client is trying to hold us to regulations that were written 7, almost 8 years ago and the company hasn't put work (continued)

like

Hello fellow WiT fishbowl-hers! We have a great live session being planned for next Thursday around self-advocacy and negotiations. There is so much that can be touched upon with these two healthy areas. Out of curiosity, what would you like to explore most with these? Are there any burning areas or scenarios you'd like to make sure we cover?

likehelpful

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal