I have a sibling that wants to work at the same firm I work at. Work is what I have to myself, and I don’t want them there in my space. It feels icky but it’s my comfort zone, what do I do?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

I had the same feeling at first. Work with my cousin. I have seen him probably a total of 3x in the office in the 3 years i have been at my firm.

Not at all a big deal. Would recommend being happy for them and encouraging them. And lets be honest, most of us wont be at our respective firms for more than a few years.

Imagine that you worked hard and got an offer to join the firm. Regardless of how long you plan to stay, you feel accomplished. Then imagine your older sibling said not to join since they are already there. Feels bad. Don’t be selfish

likehelpful

100%. Barring terribad circumstances, family should be lifting each other up. Consulting firms are massive - there is no real justification for feeling you'd get in each other's way. And even if that might be a possibility, super entitled to be treating it as *your* comfort space. What if a colleague thought your continued existence at the firm was imposing on *their* comfort space?

Bottom line, this is family ffs (with obvious caveats)

like

Tell them the truth, to go to i-banking and say consultants don’t get any respect

likefunny

Chill out, you probably won’t work with them even if they work at the same firm. Encourage them to join.

You don’t have to help them, but don’t get in their way. Most companies won’t let you refer immediate family members anyways

We will be in same class - I started undergrad
, then MBA

Being in the same class and working together are very very different

Unless you work in the same industry/function, you probably won’t even hear about them. And even then, unless you literally work in the same sub field, you’re not going to work together

like

Hey OP, I was in the *exact* same situation as you (ignore my title that has never changed) - and both of us were feeling weird about it.

But we still went for it, had an awkward 6 months of trying not to tell people we were related...but once you get over the hump?
It's awesome. You will never work with your sibling directly but you still get to support each other and share all the learnings and juicy gossip

Related Posts

My partner and I have started doing the same 3 exercise HIIT burnout and timing it as a little competition and way to feel together even when I’m away traveling. Thought I would share the idea!

like

My friend recently had a big fight with her boyfriend and it's not solved yet - she's worried. I just got engaged on Friday. Should I tell her now or is it bad timing? I don't post anything on social media or told anyone except family yet, so she won't find out from others.

like

I teach children with severe and profound disabilities so online learning is not an option, but I video call the parents so the kids can see me because I know it’s very difficult for the parents

like

I feel like I’m falling out of love with my SO. I want to experience city life. He wants to save $ to buy a house by staying with the parents. I wonder if we got married for love or because things could be cheaper when you are married.

like

When did you tell work you are pregnant? I’m at 13w now. Boss is nice and company is supportive just wasn’t sure what was standard and im generally cautious as this is my first. Planning to tell my friends and extended family in next week or two.

like

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

What would you do if you started developing feelings for a colleague? I recently (earlier in the year) went through a breakup of a long term relationship but shockingly got over him pretty quickly once I moved back home and on my own. I started developing feelings for a colleague about a week or so ago mainly because he ticks off a few of my boxes and is just SO easy to chat to and get along with. Is it too inappropriate to try to get to know him more? We’re also friends on social media

like

My kids were really upset with me when I told them that my job as an engineer did not mean that I drove trains for a living

like

We’re still trying to get pregnant during this time and man it’s been so hard to do! Any reasons why this is so or reasons why we shouldn’t be trying? I’m the husband.

Anyone else really feeling the social isolation this weekend? It’s been almost a month since I saw another person (re-entering more stringent lockdowns where I am) and not being able to see family for the holidays is hitting hard. The break from work was much needed, but made me realize work is the most consistent contact I have with people (phone calls/chat messages during the day) and without it I somehow feel more alone. Fck this year!!!

likesmart

I'm so glad to see the changes to accept more women in academia in recent years. I'm hopeful that my own daughter will be able to follow in my footsteps one year.

like

I feel like a champ today. I woke up late at 9:30 am, but billed 11 hours, managed to work out for 40 minutes, took a 1 hour break for coffee break in the evening and another 1 hour for dinner. Spoke to my family on FaceTime 2 times. Had a shower and washed my hair. Now waiting for my partner to come to bed. It’s late (1:30 am) but I’m reading a few pages of a book for the first time in forever. Tomorrow might be different but I’ll try to make it like today. I feel like a champ!

likeuplifting

I have a baby of 15 months. She is very introvert and start crying if any of friends comes to visit. Can any one suggest things what I can do to make my baby extroverted?

like

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

like

need some advice! so my fiancé and I asked his sister to be in our wedding party so we wouldn’t cause any rifts. She is older and still not married (which is completely fine!). However she is getting jealous and starting to ruin our wedding planning experience. We can’t uninvite her now but I don’t know how to handle her. I’m really close with all my other bridesmaids and I thought it would be easier to just keep her out of the loop until the time comes for the wedding and Bach?

like

I would just like to give a shoutout to all eldest siblings, who acted as the guinea pig and broke down their parents so that the young siblings can live their best life. Y’all are the real MVPs 🙌🏼

likefunnyuplifting

hi - new to this bowl. I want to make sure I’m not being irrational or dramatic lol.

My boyfriend forgot my upcoming birthday. He scheduled a pick-up hockey game on that day and when I asked him about it, he said it was important to him to play hockey with his friends and we could celebrate my birthday a different day. for context, we’ve been dating for over a year and he knows how important celebrating is to me. im pretty close to ending it... thoughts?

like

What does respecting your partner’s wishes mean? Does it mean I have to comply with whatever they want?

Went to a concert with my gf and it started at 8 and I suggested going at 9 because they always have an opening show. We argued and she said I have to respect her & it left me offended bc I do respect her

This morning, my apt was having a free coffee event and she wanted to stop by before leaving for work & there was a short wait that made her late and blamed it on me for not waking up contd

like

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

likehelpful

How can you tell when staying home alone is introversion vs social withdrawal/isolation, which is a symptom of something more serious?

More Posts

Anyone have some job opps in Charlotte?

like

hustle hustle krte krte

Post Photo
funnylikeuplifting

"And then, he made his own marathon. For gay people."

like

Are career home pages on WITCH useful in getting a job offer?

like

I wonder if I would attract the same level of good looking women if I omitted to tell them what I do...

like

Advice, please! A former coworker in a different industry wants to talk about opportunities in my organization. We haven't talked in several years, but were friendly when we worked together.

The thing is, based on the quality of his work, I really can't recommend him. What would be a diplomatic way to convey this?

Also, If you think there's a better bowl for this query, please let me know. TIA!

like

If you were an early stage PM (1 year PM at a start-up after 2 at BCG), what company would you go to for maximum future earning potential?

And would you stay in PM or go to product strategy?

Moving to SF this fall and need to start applying now.

likesmart

Carat NYC - What’s it like these days? Should I consider it?

likefunny

Hi Guys,

Do Amex provide relocation expenses ?

like

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

like

I just started doing my taxes for the year and it shows we have to pay 12k 🤮 how to avoid this next year? Wife not investing in 401k which we plan to change..

likehelpful

Did well in first and second interview. Third interview was behavioral questions which I had a gut feeling I didn’t do well on. Niche consultant position. Was executive in last role. Have sent enthusiastic thank you emails to all three. Would sending a more in-depth addendum email to 2nd and 3rd interviewers to better answer missed questions be over eager?

like

Gave 3 rounds of interviews with Rubrik. No feedback got a call saying you got rejected thats it. Don't candidates deserve a chance to know their feedback you might think I am writing this out of spite but this happens in most of the companies In my case, I was 100% sure about how I performed in the interview because all the questions asked were one or the other way from one of many inteviews I attend. I was able to answer every question discussed and shared my thoughts while writing the code.

like

Just found out I didn’t make to the next round of interview with Google. The recruiter was nice to keep me updated. Any of you experienced rejections before ? Any tips ?

like

When does the bonus payout happen for India and do all employees get it?

like

How do LBO folks arrive at forecast for interest rates?

I'd imagine that the interest rate is a highly sensitive input for IRR in leverage heavy transactions

like

4 years at MBB, 3 years at FAANG, looking to join VC fund as principal+ Do you know someone who’s done this? What’s your advice on networking with funds, startups, incubators, etc?

like

A sunny Saturday morning in NY! What’s on your wrist today?

Post Photo
like

Anyone with Trading Systems Support / FIX Protocol knowledge looking for switch?
Experience 1-3 years

Happy to refer

like

Hi Fishes
I'm looking for an referral in walmart for data engineer role. having 3.3 yrs of exp.
Can anyone help me with this.

like

Additional Posts in All Things MBB

Hi Humans,

I found a position in McKinsey Digital for Software Engineer position in Planetrics team. Upon searching I found Planetrics was acquired by McKinsey and this position is a part of a “client serving” team.

My question is what’s the growth like when joining McKinsey as a software engineer

like

Have a R1 with BCG but the HR said in the invitation that their first start dates for Consultant are in 2022. Is this normal? Can this be negotiated?

like

a bit of an open-ended question, but what are the general predictors of on-the-job success at MBB? (both tangible things like test scores, case interview performance, and intangible things like character, drive etc.)

like

Applied to BCG NYC office in December and made it to the final round, but wasn’t given an offer. Want to reapply to NYC, but was told by a friend in recruiting that they wouldn’t give me a first round being that I was rejected only 7 months ago. Anyone know whether it not this is true?

like

Did anyone ever confirm the BCG Post-MBA level pay increase to $175K? If so, has anyone matched it yet?

like

BCG fishes - My friend received a full-time Consultant offer and will be joining in summer of 2022. But he is sponsored for the MBA by his previous employer (Tier 2 Strat house). Does BCG entertain any negotiations to cover MBA tuition fees?

like

Is there anyone here from McKinsey or BCG in Montreal willing to chat? Im thinking about applying soon, but I feel like speaking with someone who works there will help me assess if I would love working there (culture, types of projects, etc), and that my interest isnt solely based on prestige/reputation!

like

My access to consulting101 expired. Can someone with access able to copy and send me a few cases for a particular industry?

like

Is this normal?? Was looking to join the Boston office at Associate level.

Post Photo
like

Interviewing for a generalist BA role at McKinsey. Have 2 YOE at another consulting firm. Does McKinsey adjust comp and promotion timeline to EM for experienced BA’s?

like

Are y’all wearing ties to zoom interviews? Maybe good place to ask those in recruiting, I’m not in recruiting so are the candidates wearing ties ?

like

Apologies if this has been asked before but can somebody please tell me BCG salaries in the London for Consultants and PLs?

like

Anyone going into final round that wants to do run some cases?

like

Anyone have a Power Rd with McK tmrw?

like

How hard should I push to come in as a ASC2/C2? As an MBA + 5, I asked my recruiters about this and they pushed back pretty hard. Objective would be to fast track title and TC.

like

I started a job at McKinsey recently and not enjoying it. Any insight into moving positions within the firm? How to approach this? Or should I just look for new work?

like