I have been dating my GF for 3 years. I feel like I am not appreciated in the slightest bit - I get no “thank you”, I get no acknowledgement of anything I do for us. I’m not asking for her to bow down on like taking the trash out - but I mean some recognition every now and then would mean a lot to me. How do I bring this up?

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Sounds like a spoiled princess narcissist. I would GTHO of there before your roots grow too deep.

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^^ this type of narcissistic behavior may get worse over time. Especially after marriage when they realize that you are trapped.

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Sounds like she is treating you as a husband rather than a boyfriend. Marry her and make it real or let it go!

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Example - I go out of my way to drop by when she and a friend were at a dinner bc she wanted me to see the friend. I really had to shuffle things around, and absolutely no acknowledgement. Idk am I overreacting?

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No no I hope you only ever have daughters

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You should ask for what you deserve in a relationship. As a man, the biggest thing we want is respect and appreciation for our efforts. My wife, mother and all the women in my life show appreciation when I do the smallest things and it makes me feel good and want to do more. My dad had to get on his mother (my grandma) one time because I bought her a purse and she didn’t say thank you and he noticed and told her that her behavior was bad and blah blah.
Point is, if you feel disrespect and unappreciated you should say something and if that doesn’t change, leave. I can’t live with being disrespected constantly because I know the type of man I am and what I bring to any relationship.

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All you can do is take note of it…and decide if that’s what you want moving forward…bringing it up is not gonna magically change her bro. That’s who she is. She was raised that way. If you can live with it and get used to not hearing the gratitude then you’ll be fine. Always make sure she shows you she appreciates you and that it’s not just you doing all the favors and going out of the way. Put her in a place where you want her to do something for you.

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Have you tried to talk to her about it? If she is unwilling to change and stop being a narcissist, then it might be in your best interest to look around for someone else who will truely appreciate all of the effort that you put into them.

I'm not telling you to leave her. In my experience, I have left the second I felt unappreciated because there is no shortage of women (unfortunately) who receive little to nothing of proper treatment from men that'll appreciate me. It has worked like a charm whenever I ran into that issue

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