I have been dating my gf for 6 months now. She’s a nice enough girl to hang out with but recently I’ve been feeling as though the effort in the relationship is really imbalanced. For example, she never offers to pay for dinner, never offers to cook for us (I do it), never buys gifts and doesn’t want to have sex (she she’s a virgin and wants to be sure I’m committed before she’s ready but she is happy receiving oral though).

Am I a sucker here? I’m 27, she’s 25.

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Stop bein a simp

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“She’s a nice enough girl to hang with” already tells me everything I need to know. Don’t settle for “nice enough.” You’re 27, go find someone who sets your soul on fire.

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At 27, your relationship should be fireworks. Otherwise, there won’t be any flame by the time your well into your marriage.

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Move on

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Read back what you wrote… unless there is much more to this (self-reflection is never a bad thing), I’m pretty sure you have answered your question yourself. I’m sorry dude, this is not the one.

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The writing is on the wall. If you break off things now, you’ll save some money on Xmas gifts, if you celebrate.

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If that’s what 6 months looks like I hate to know what 6 years would!!!!

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“A nice enough girl” - if you are describing her this way she aint the one 😂

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You're both not that into each other...

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She's not really into you. Low effort often means low interest.

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Date me! Im 27 and cooked and bought my ex stuff. 🙄 apparently i wasnt doing enough.

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Lol thanks!

Yikes

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I think ppl will focus more on the sex part but tbh even if you'd left that part out it sounds like y'all aren't super compatible. It's def not a good sign that you describe she's "nice enough". You mention she doesn't buy you dinner or cook for you, does she do anything for you?

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She sounds like a great friend with occasional, drunken benefits.

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Looks like no benefits at all

Time to move on.

I mean the fact that you have to ask us is telling enough that this “relationship” isn’t it.

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