I have been taking care of my mom and feel like I’ve given up my own life in the process. Turning 40 this year and all my friends are now married with 2 kids, housewives. My bff (single)is having a baby in July & will have to move away for affordability. I’ve suddenly can’t relate to all my old friends who only identify as moms/talk about their kids all day (respectfully). Never been in a ltr & feeling very left behind. in a depressed single fog... can anyone else relate? Tips to deal?

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It takes a lot to take care of family for sure. Been in a similar situation for a long while. Try not to think of it as being behind - it’s not a race. It’s just not time yet. I try to stay in touch with old friends and am happy to be the cool auntie. I just make new friends (they keep getting younger) who can still do things.

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Have been in Your situation and i feel for you. This quote helps me a lot. Your stuff is coming!

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Going through the same thing (turned 40 a few months ago) but not having to care for my parents. Also feel really isolated since pandemic restrictions are lifting and I don’t feel like I have anyone or any social activities to get back to. Not really upset about not having kids or a partner, but am starting to resent the consequences. Need to just build new friendships but kind of feel disillusioned if it’s a cycle that needs to repeat with fewer long lasting relationships/friendships

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