I have been working at this current agency for about a year. I am Asian... I have now had multiple white people mistaken me for someone else and also mistaken a writer in my team for me.

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I have never seen white people get confused or mistake names of their white co-workers. That is generous thinking. They have no problem recognizing each other. This is about their unconscious processes that decide who to remember.

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You should just start “mistaking” white people for other white people...

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Maybe... if you have the clout or feel safe enough, it could be a good way to start a conversation. I don't get mistaken for anyone else, but I have used borderline and unintentional racist moments to have good conversations. If you start with the assumption that there is no bad intent, it is possible to have constructive conversations about this kind of thing.

*cont'd: it goes without saying, we do not look alike at all nor are we similar in style.

I’m obviously joking. Two wrongs don’t make a right...

I was hoping you were going to say, “two Wongs don’t make a white.” Being pre emptive here before the outrage. Asian making a reverse ironic joke.

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It’s obviously not malicious. However, speak up with respect and ask them to start being more aware of how it’s effecting you.

Are they mistaking you for the other person or are they getting the names mixed up? I know it's still wrong but I get called the name of the only other person in the office that has my nationality all the time but they do know who I am and what I do / they don't actually think I'm the other person, they just get caught up in that country of origin thing about us. They're not confused about my identity just the name - it's an ongoing (tiring) joke and they apologize endlessly but it doesn't result in them getting our names straight...

I feel like if we were in my country and had like 2-3 American dudes in the office called Tom / Steve / Joe / Tim / Mike etc, we'd call them by the wrong name all day long, too lol. jk

No, not a name mixup. Literal conversations happening... Til other Asian dude realized, oh you're not looking for me.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2019/05/02/shes-asian-female-shes-not-me/

It amazes me. I think sometimes it’s a lack of exposure and peoples brains. Although, I experienced this the most in NY with other Asians I really didn’t think I resembled very much from white coworkers.

I’m curious if you engage in in-person conversations much with these people or primarily over emails? I think it makes it worse from my experience.

I also want to add that it’s also due to how they see you as a race first than a person. Again, from my experience and observations of other people with similar experiences.

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