I have found that incorporating a holistic approach to my addiction issues very helpful. Posting a helpful website to hopefully help others.

https://www.hipsobriety.com

For new/newer moms- did working from home make a difference when you were pregnant? Does it make a difference for you now (presuming you have some form of childcare while you work)?

EDIT: We just found out we’re pregnant and I’m trying to see if negotiating permanent WFH with a couple of prospective employers is worth it. Not even hybrid appeals to me, tbh

I got an opportunity at IBM ISDL as application developer. How is the work culture, learning opportunities and annual hikes?

Hi, is it now allowed in optum to login into teams and outlook from mobile. ??
I'm getting error like your sign-in was successful but doesn't meet the criteria to access this resource

How can people afford to always order a couple drinks when they go to restaurants?
It’s insanely overpriced

Hi Fishes..
Which one to join Capgemini or IBM?
CapG - Team lead, Demand Planning, B1 - 17 fixed, 1jb
IBM - Consultant 7A - 18.5 fixed, 2jb
Skills : IBP, O9
YOE - 5.8
RELEVANT EXP - 2.5

Interviewing for London office. Does ACN insurance provide private dental and eye coverage?

Hi Fishes

I'm using data jpa to connect to oracle DB in our API.

We have one scenario when the DB is down, then also normal flow should work.

Although it is working fine, but when we are checking the logs it's taking more than 1 second just to identify that the DB is locked, this is not within our SLA.

In the normal case it's processing within 200 ms.

We're using Spring Boot, Hibernate, Oracle 19c

Please provide some valuable suggestions from our side

Considering going back in the reserves (was enlisted USMC, now thinking Coast Guard reserve officer. Anyone gone back in the service after a long time out? I've been out since 2013.

Hi Fishes,

If anyone has given an interview in D.E Shaw, please let me know about technical rounds ?

All SMs currently in pipeline - How many years at SM on average would you say it takes to be a partner these days?

Hi…how long does IBM take to send the FFS and experience letter?

Hello fishes, how much % will get annual variable pay in Clarivate??

Do you live with your in-laws? If so, how do you manage it?

Was a Director at my last shop (12 yrs exp), moved to biggest shop in my new state as a Sup. w goals to grow. Just had a baby, and I’ve been passed up for promos the last 2 years to a man. Now what?

A former client director colleague has gone in-house as CMO. They are now asking me (currently ECD) to join and set up an agency-like creative team to up-level everything from brand to sales materials. It's a good mgmt opp and good creative is a definite possibility, but I'm conflicted. Aency BS would be nice to step away from, but I think I'm still bought into the notion that agencies are superior and in-house is where washed-up creatives go to die. Any regrets from those that made the jump?

Apart from CTC mentioned in offer letter. Do we have bonuses in epam anywhere?

Does anyone have recommendations for non-alcoholic drinks? I have been having soda with lime at happy hours, but also just found Athletic Beer that is n/a as an option. I’m tired of temptation and upturned or confused looks. Also, just have felt so much better not drinking and not going down a spiral - really want to keep things that way.

Wanted to post to get this group moving 😊. Currently a little over a year sober/ alcohol free. Welcome to all of my fellow folks in any type of recovery!

What are some fun sober activities or hobbies? Meaning where it's hard or impossible to drink while doing the activity? Hiking, bike riding, shooting guns are some that come to mind. What else?

I’m a Sr Manager and I was arrested for the first time in my life, and it was for DWI. I haven’t been convicted as it’s a long drawn out process, but curious how big of a deal this is when looking for consulting/IT/Program Management type jobs. Anyone with experience or stories getting hired with a DWI? I’m freaking out that I’m not going to be able to switch and find good 200/250k+ paying jobs now

A little over three months sober now. I’ve been doing okay, but tonight after going to a party and not drinking (didn’t struggle with that) realized how much my life is changing and it’s kind of sad

Starting on my journey to sobriety today from sex addiction. I’ve been clean from alcohol for several years but my therapist has pushed me to start attending AA meetings in addition to SAA meetings. I know I can’t overcome this alone.

Feeling so frustrated and scared. I am trying my hardest to be loving to my brother who is addicted to many things. My family has been encouraging him for years to get real help. He’s finally semi-agreed to go to a detox facility and then rehab. However, those are far away from where we all live now. My 70+ dad wants to fly with my brother there to make sure he goes. I understand, but also...there’s a freaking pandemic going on with a virus targeting older people. Cont’d...

My dad has a problem with alcohol. When he stops drinking for a day he clearly exhibits all the signs for alcohol withdraw. Shaky hands, sweating insomnia. I’m so tired of seeing him fall. My mom has passed away (they were long divorced) so I really don’t have anyone to turn to. How can I be supportive without being an enabler? He has lost the last three jobs and is currently jobless and will must likely need my financial help soon.

Folks that took medical leave for alcohol use treatment: What was your experience? Did you do inpatient detox? anyone skipped detox and go straight into an outpatient IOP? How was that? How long were you out on leave? How much notice did you give ur boss before the leave? Anyone quit/not go back?
I’m ready to get real treatment for my alcohol usage. Would love to benchmark my path against others in the group as I don’t trust my decision making ability right now.

Possible to be sober as a new consultant? Feel constant pressure from other colleagues to drink and feel like it will be an uphill battle to climb the ranks sober. Can anyone share their story of getting/ being sober early in their career?

Is everyone on here sober from (mostly) everything? Do you sometimes partake in other vices? For me, it’s smoking herb 1-2x/week. Used to be way worse (❄️⛷💊🥃) and that’s how/why I justify it.

What do you do to stop depression or negative thoughts?

I relapsed one week ago and feel awful about myself. I’m having trouble finding motivation and strength to get sober again now

Just wanted to post an update. 68 weeks ago I posted about my drinking problems. It was bad. It’s been 8 months now without a single drink. I still can’t believe it. I still miss drinking. I’ve sat with coworkers and watched them drink. It’s not nearly as fun, but I am so thankful each morning I can hold my head up high. Will I drink again? I only said I would quit for 60 days. Can I have a beer? Some wine? A fine bourbon? I sometimes crave it. I guess there is the answer! You can all do this!

Help! I stopped drinking but now I smoke the vape pens & I’m hopelessly addicted to nicotine, worried about my lungs. How do I quit this hellish fix? Feel I may start smoking cigs to get off the vape?

What happens if a employee discloses his performance has suffered because corona virus got him depressed and he’s been drinking?

been in downward spiral since COVID, struggling with being alone, loved the travel, teams. got depressed and angry. Dreaded work. In the process got to drinking 4 up to 15 drinks most days. Gained weight. Didn’t care about living. Have tried to stop over and over. Last week I woke up with a bloody nose and for the first time cared. I don’t know what changed. I am 7 days sober and I am starting to feel like the me I remember! I am proud! I am thankful! I just needed to share!

66 members already! For those of you currently working a 12 step program, if you choose, share below your addiction and your length of sobriety. Perhaps that’ll get some good Q & As going