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Net pay: $xxx 🤨
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Lol why? I still want my husband to pay for my things, old school
Chief
Ultimately what they say should not affect you - why are you letting whatever they say affect you?
They are who they are. If you don’t like that, and you let it affect whatever other positive aspects you have with those people, then move on.
OP chill. My wife makes a lot of money and still jokes about me paying for her beauty budget just because. Not everything needs to be so serious.
What do you do? Just chill out.
Enthusiast
Everyone has their own desired relationship dynamic. If both partners agree to it then that’s their business.
This my partner funds me day to day life. I fund our retirement.
Conversation Starter
They are who they are not who they should be as per what you think is right. That’s the beauty of other ppl they are their own people 😛 so you have two choices -
1. you figure out what they are is so contrary to your values that whatever good they have is not enough to counter it and you limit your exposure
2. You figure out everything else they bring to you is positive enough that you can deal with that aspect. That means you choose to accept it and let go of your annoyance once and for all to maintain your friendship
To be clear totally not judging you. I’ve cut ties with friends because I couldn’t deal with certain behaviors and was better off not seeing them. I’ve also decided to let go of certain judgments when I dearly loved my friends.
Chief
Her beauty budget is that big?
They must be hella ugly.
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Pro
To each their own i guess if it really bothers you thats on you and youre giving their words a lot of power by letting them bother you
They are such a big turn off. And you know they love your job and not you. Of you Will ever became il, they will chance you in no time
Conversation Starter
Anyone wants a man’s opinion? 😉
Pro
Its because a lot of women have such low self esteem that they arent brave enough to speak up on a regular setting so they come to fb to blow off steam the wrong way thats why they are catty because they are hiding behind this anonymous platform. Jumping at every comment or post because everything affects them 🤯
Enthusiast
Is just a saying!!
I don’t understand what the problem is with their point of view.
Conversation Starter
Well just because you asked, here we go…
If your girlfriends say it as a joke but don’t really mean it then I would just laugh about it and forget. But if they are serious about finding a husband based on his ability to act as a provider then there are few things to consider. If they are really planning to play the role of a homemaker, raise a family and be stay at home mothers, I think it’s a fair game to hope for a man capable enough to provide for them and the future children. Playing that role for a woman is a full time and a demanding job and expecting the man to provide is a the rigth expectation. But if they have the education to have carriers, plan to work and excel at their jobs, hope to have the required help in raising the kids, expect the husbands to play an equal part in household chores then asking for a man to work his ass off to buy nail paint for them is not right. We all know that by beauty budget they don’t really mean their Sephora expenses but rather mean to be taken care of in all aspects of life. So before we judge them, the situation and their futur circumstances will need be considered. Also, we can not forget thwt for centuries women have been brainwashed to believe that men and women play certain roles and there associated expectations with those roles. It’s easy to judge but we are products of our upbringing. Personally, I’d hope that woman would think differently. After a long struggle they’ve almost reached a place where society and men talk about equality. So they have an amazing opportunity to achieve a life and status that men have enjoyed for centuries. I know it’s not entirely accessible but is starting to come within reach. So I were to meet a woman who talks to thinks like that, I would be feeling bad for her as she’d be letting go an opportunity.
Women of FB: Please don’t blast me. I’m just an ignorant man who fell for the trap and ended up giving my two (or few) cents lol.
Chill OP. Whether they mean it as a joke, or whether there is truth in their statement, it doesn’t matter. People should get to chose to life whatever kind of life and relationship dynamic they want themselves.
Just like there is nothing wrong with a woman being fully independent, there is nothing wrong either with those who may want a different kind of relationship & perhaps want to be, I don’t know, a stay at home mom or housewife or whatever they want.
What matters is to be what you want to be, and to be in a relationship with someone whose expectations/values/wants/needs are in line. Live and let live ffs.
Rising Star
I was telling EY it shouldnt bother them based on their response. I see your point OP. I also wouldnt want to be a burden to my husband but rather a partner. I wouldnt want to use him as if he were an ATM machine and i find it hard to relate to the women who do specially because we dont have similar mindsets or topics of conversations. But at the same time, it doesnt bother me because i guess i dont have women telling me all the time how they want their stuff paid by a man. Some women are just straight up gold diggers and well, its on the man if they allow them to use them for their money.
Rising Star
They must be joking lol
Enthusiast
Congratulations 🍾🎊🎈🎉 how many?