I have missed all the milestones of adulthood like marriage, kids, buying a house, and it’s hard to make those happen at this age. My career is behind and I have high anxiety around aging poor. Wtd?

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Sounds like that CEO is a superdouche, and it’s hard to imagine anyone bragging about dating HIM. Age is a bit of a nonsense variable anyway, and dating wise, it’s pretty horrifying if age is the defining characteristic of your partner. There are tons of guys, and plenty who will care to get to know and date you for your many other attributes, not whatever age you happen to be. Kids ARE hard, but there are plenty of women who don’t even have their first kid until their 40s, (and plenty of women in their 20s who are unable to conceive- nothing is guaranteed). If kids are a priority for you, make sure you consider all the different ways you can become a parent, too. If you’re worried about aging, start taking care of yourself, financially (savings, investments, retirement, etc.), physically (get exercise, eat right, get a good skincare regimen going), and emotionally- develop your friendships and relationships with family members (if feasible) as well as with romantic partners. Most of all, remember that everyone is trying to show off their best bits, and treating your life like a project plan with milestones you can miss is only going to make you feel bad, no one else. You’ve got the world at your fingertips! Sending you lots of support and commiseration- you’re not alone in feeling that way!

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“Superdouche. The hero no one needs"

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OP, you are not that old at all! People find love and get married later than ever and I am sure you will too. Thoughts manifest, so write down what you want/need, create a vision board and try to be positive. I know it is easier said than done but trust me, you will be fine eventually! Sending lots of love your way

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You most definitely haven’t missed them, there is no right way or right age. ❤️

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I’ve found that the “milestones” you mentioned are not real things. Everyone’s life progresses at different paces, and success is measured in many different ways. Shifting my own mental mindset and working on my anxiety really helped my mental state. Hope you can change your mindset and do the same!

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OP I bought a condo. Apart from that we are the same. Break apart your problems. For saving etc see a financial planner. Go for counselling for the rest.

There are dating coaches as well.

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How old are you if you don’t mind me asking

Few years shy of 40

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Isn’t there? I was at a dinner where this ceo guy in his 50s was there, and he was bragging about how he never dates anyone over 30. When that’s the attitude, what’s the point? I know there have to be other guys, but kids aren’t really easy after a certain age.

Idk how old you are but I’m an analyst at 27 and I’m just beginning my career if that makes you feel any better.

Me too. My lead and their lead are younger than me. But it’s better than never realizing this career was a good fit and that my prior paths were not.

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You have to stop with the comparisons and where you think you should be. I mean, your path is your path. It’s never too late to live your life as long as you are on this side of the dirt. If you’re not impotent, get out there and find your wife and give her all you’ve got!! Kids are overrated but it’s never too late to have them!! You’ll age really fast! That lady parts a joke! 😉

I’m a woman. Did I mention there is a time it is too late to have kids? Get out there and find someone is not something women can successfully alpha initiate without a subtext of desperation even when guys in their 50s can confidently do so. I wonder how many times someone posts, and we assume it’s a guy or a girl. I guess I never thought about it.

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