I have ptsd and it sucks. Not all the time, but man have I been going through something rough. Could be hurting my newest relationship 😔

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What do you mean you have PTSD but not all the time? Are you referring to your symptoms? If you are diagnosed with PTSD, yes it can be extremely difficult to practice healthy coping skills, communication, vulnerability, sleep, I mean it affects everything. Have you done any trauma counseling? At some point you’ll need to slowly start to unpack while having a safe space to return to. If you’ve not addressed your trauma, it will absolutely creep into every part of your life, and the easiest way to deal with it is to sabotage anything good you have going. If you don’t know better, you can’t do better.
T&P ♥️

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You may have CPTSD which can “come and go” to the extent you have triggers for flashbacks.

Without knowing you or any context to your trauma, here are 3 quick recommendations to help:

1. Yoga. Meditation. Mindfulness.

2. A healthy adrenaline-producing outlet. Skiing, Skydiving, Rock Climbing, etc.

3. Three Books: The Body Keeps the Score. Tribe (Junger). Meditations.


You’ll be okay. Just overcommunicate with your beau/belle.

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Sounds like you should sit down with your guy and talk it through

Sorry to hear that. I also had PTSD from SA. Therapy helped me a lot with this, and just being very communicative to my partner on things that trigger me

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I’m trying to find a new therapist. I stopped when I was doing better but not doing well now

I am sorry you’re struggling with PTSD. Be open with what you’re dealing with in your new relationship so they’re able to have an understanding of what’s going on.

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Hey you might really benefit from r/CPTSD! Also the books “CPTSD: from surviving to thriving” and “Healing developmental trauma” were life changing. I coped with my trauma by being a workaholic and I didn’t really get a good grip on it until I forced myself to stop.

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What if they run away? Sounds like a lot of baggage

Everyone has baggage. We just find the people that make us want to help lift it up

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