I have really been working on myself to start dating and I met someone who seemed pretty cool, but within two dates dropped some massive baggage. His ex was pregnant and it turned out after it was born he found out it wasn’t his. I feel like he hasn’t really dealt with it, and he’s made some really uncomfortable comments about women that are slowly waving red flags, even though he doesn’t say anything directly about me. Would you have a conversation or run?

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Converse and run. Won’t fix his views on women

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What was the comment? But honestly, if your gut is telling you something’s off, I would trust it.

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I’m just nervous that not coping with this is a massive red flag and the weird and somewhat misogynistic comment skeeved me out, but I can’t imagine what he’s going through. I think the other thing is that I’m a known caregiver, and maybe for that reason, I should find someone together rather than my same old.. ugh. Sorry. Need to rant.

Talk about it with him. It could be his coping mechanism is --bad.

I’m a guy so if a woman had similar baggage but I thought she was an incredible catch otherwise, I would share the emotional impact of her comments related to what bothered me. Depending on how she reacted, I would go from there. Defensiveness and blame, I say good bye. Apologetic and genuine care about the emotional impact, I can work with that.

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