I have severe trust issues and as a result self-sabotage my relationships 😞

I had a breakdown on Saturday at my second job (youth group advisor). My parents had to come pick me up, at age 35. I couldn't deal with people being nice to me -- my job is just so frustrating.

How to deal with aging parents when living in another state? I visit when I can but now in airport waiting to leave, feeling guilt and deep sadness.

Any tips on making long distance relationships work, especially if you’re in public?

I don’t know if coming out is something I should do or not anymore. My girlfriend and I want to get married in the next couple of years but thats not something I want to keep secret. It hurts me that I feel like I have to do that, but I don’t want to risk losing my job. I know they can’t fire me for being in a wlw relationship but they don’t have to give a reason. I don’t want the backlash of the community either since the area I teach in is really rural. Just sad I guess.

Anyone else who left the city have half a mind to go back to nyc? The dysfunction in my family has gotten to be too much

The sudden death of a friend has made me realize that my obsession with goals has caused me to miss out on so much of my life. How can I learn to refocus and make time for the people in my life?

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

Desi Fam,

I suffer from depression and anxiety. Been facing it through past year now. Have tried all natural methods but no success. Also pandemic hasn’t made it easier as well.

Lot of pressure from family to get married but with my state of mind, not so much inclined. (M29).

Family thinks it good to move back to india and try afresh but the prospect of not been able to get good salary job/ and sabotaging a career that I made gives me more anxiety.

Reached out to an ex after not being in contact for 4 years. Said “Hi, I hope all is well.” No response. Intention was not to get back together (we’re both married now), more to mend fences since we were good friends once upon a time. Was reaching out a mistake?

my husband and i got married thirteen months ago. i make more than him and also have a side hustle that takes around 5-10 hours a week depending on the business. This week is leading closer to a 10-15 hour week along with an out of town gig. But I’ll be bringing in almost my entire two weeks with this work. All that to say, this week is a busy one and we’re having company over this weekend. So we need to clean the house. My husband told me he talked to his mom earlier while he 1/2

I'm an engineer and I love building things but based on what I've seen about Gen Z, I think I'm going to raise my kids in a less modern style. No TV, no internet, at least until a certain age.

Reading a lot about paying homemakers, so I want to understand a few things.. I know it's a trigger to say what do these women do all day, but I do have this question. My Mom is a Doctor & she managed 2 clinics & our home. We had a maid only for house cleaning. My Mom made breakfast & tiffins for everyone b4 going to her morning clinic, spent afternoon with us when we were back from school & went to her evening clinic when we were out to play only to be back by dinner time. Cntd..

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

What are the top questions you get about big law work over Thanksgiving? Mine is never actually about my work and always some variation of "if you work that much how will you ever get married." Flying home this weekend so bring on the wine!

Any ideas for how to meet people in Houston? I am new to the city and have been feeling really lonely..

Parents who have or have had a baby. How was the first year or two for you? Was it awesome, was it terrible, did it change your relationship with your partner? Did you regret it, did you want out? I've heard that having a baby can really change things between you and your partner and that a lot of marriages fall apart at that point. Just interested in stories and feedback.

Also curious if one partner kind of pressured the other into having a child/was driving force in wanting the baby.

My gf has a particular gift. To always choose the better dish when we're out. So we decided to choose for each other. And, not surprising, the dish i chose for her was still better. Should we break up?

Had a break down on front of my parents, pretty sure they hate me now. Everything is going well

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

I. Can’t. Take. This. Any. More.

Asking for a friend - are there places in DuPont/Logan to buy weed gummies? They have never tried and want some place that could help find something that is a small dose

How much chia seeds everyday is too much? I love chia pudding, I feel like it satisfies my sweet tooth while also being healthy but worried it’s a lot of chia seeds

Trying to get an investment job in Toronto as a new immigrant. I have 4 yoe in consulting, investor searching and financial service (risk). Currently working at call center to get local experience (bilingual), opportunities for internal transfer, while preparing for CFA 3 Feb 2023. Any ideas what to prepare in extra?

How is Xoriant pune for automation testers? Also how is job security in Xoriant as one of my knower is on bench since 3 months since joining. He is worried. Guys Please suggest.

What’s your biggest pro/con to AAI?

What do travel, utilization requirements (billable hours?), and work-life look like for those of you working in the Cloud space?

Have you ever decided a particular group fitness class wasn’t for you because the instructor was off-putting even if there wasn’t anything technically wrong with the workout?

Has anyone got their biometrics appointment recently after filing I-485? What is the process? Do you get your EAD immediately?

For those that recently (2020-2021) got the Marriage Based Green Card, how long did it take to get an interview scheduled after seeing the notice “Case is ready to be scheduled for an Interview” Did you get EAD/AP before the interview?

Did Rafik just replace Charlie as dentsu CSO? Any other leaders let go?

Great question! And without getting too much into monetary policy.... Fed rates are set by the Federal Reserve which banks use to charge each other to borrow money. A lot of times these rates move together, however, a Fed rate increase does not instantaneously change the rates the bank offers.

Other types of savings account have seen an increase this year such as online savings accounts and fixed annuities.

I've had so many patients ask me to speak to my attending. I'm a small woman, but have been an attending for 3 years now...

What brands have in-house production teams? Interested in going in-house but it’s not always easy to figure out who has in-house and who doesn’t. I’d love to learn about as many as possible to explore opportunities. Thank you!

Job Opportunities in PDX? Anyone know people looking for new jobs in PDX? I am sourcing candidates in PR (Director) and integrated marketing (A/C Supervisor) and other roles. Would love any referrals! S.Towers at bolywelch dot com

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Anyone know the role of Research Analyst in S&P Global?
And work environment??

Gay Chicago vibes? Downtown hotspots for lesbians?

I’m 25 and my offer for a house just got accepted. And nothings official yet so don’t want to tell family/friends so sharing it here. I’m so excited!! And nervous. What should I expect as a first time home buyer?

bodies bodies bodies

I just started watching Peaky Blinders. Tell me why organized crime so gd sexy

One year into working from home and today is the first day I took a nap in the afternoon and it was glorious.

my husband and i got married thirteen months ago. i make more than him and also have a side hustle that takes around 5-10 hours a week depending on the business. This week is leading closer to a 10-15 hour week along with an out of town gig. But I’ll be bringing in almost my entire two weeks with this work. All that to say, this week is a busy one and we’re having company over this weekend. So we need to clean the house. My husband told me he talked to his mom earlier while he 1/2

Hello 🐠 Fam - I’m looking to make a top 10 favorite movie list for the holidays. Can you please share your top 3 favorite movies. I will reconcile the top 10 favorite movies as selected by the group and share with you all to enjoy for the upcoming holiday season. Unfortunately I’ll be celebrating by myself starting thanksgiving through the new year 😞 so would be watching a bunch of new/old movies. My favs: Shawshank Redemption, my cousin Vinny, Pulp Fiction. Top 3 only - I’m sure won’t be easy!

What is the best book you’ve ever read?

I hate Game of Thrones and do not get why so many people like it

My ex and I are waiting the 6 month period of our divorce process to be finalized. If I get a promotion or change jobs that pay more do I have to let her know? Will she be able to get more money even though we both have a notarized agreement on a set amount that was signed/approved by the judge?

It makes me unreasonably angry when I spend my time explaining everything I know about something for a coworker (about one of THEIR tasks, nonetheless, not mine) and the response is either to set up a meeting or to call me. 🤦 Like I’ve told you everything I know about it. Cool, we can call and I’ll read to you what I wrote, but I’ve typed it all for you, not sure what good you think a call is gonna do. I literally know nothing more than what I already wrote and now you’re hindering my work.

I thought this was a confession board... just got reported for stating my attraction to girls that look like my ex vs my current girlfriend... welp what can you confess then?

Was 3 minutes into an interview. Was told the role is 100% in person (no hybrid option). I just went ahead and thanked the interviewer for his time😂

Wasn’t going to waste his, or my, time.

Do your 1:1s with your manager become therapy sessions? Or is it just me..

I'm planning to take my tiny dog to the classroom, which doesn't bark at all. I'm part-time MBA student and stay on campus for the entire Saturday. I wanted to care my dog and don't want to drive alone for 4 hrs a day...

It’s always so uncomfortable asking people to pay you back.

Seriously a pet peeve of mine when someone picks up the tab/pays for something and people don’t immediately Venmo/QuickPay the other person back right away.

I’m 32 years old and am still on my parents’ phone plan. AMA