I have sober 14 months after my DUI. SO and I have been dating for almost a year now and last night on a date, she had a glass of wine while I had water. So she asked me why I am afraid to drink just a glass of wine, so I told her, I just don’t drink. It might not do anything but that’s a choice a make. On the way home, she was saying that she would like to drink some wine with me. How how do I handle this?

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Remember my good brother it’s people, places, things that can jeopardize your recovery process. I suggest you back off from her. It’s easier for her to pull you on her side then for you to pull her on your side. Sounds like you need a sponsor if you have one please use him. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😍😍😍

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This is where creating strong ties to a fellowship [ I use AA and my sponsor] is critical to continued sobriety. If you can't express to her how much this concerns you, you are still vulnerable to the enticement of the drink and all that comes with it. Sharing in a meeting or with a sponsor will help you navigate these life tests. Sponsors are found in a fellowship. Go to meetings and ask someone who "speaks" the things you hear.

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Wonderful! Will do. Thank you.

That's tough. Does she know about the DUI and why you're sober?

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I thought so. She has no clue, and I am ashamed to bring it up.

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I agree with you here. Great word of encouragement. Unfortunately, I don’t have a sponsor. I wish I could find one.

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I would say just be honest with her. If someone you date chooses not to like that and step away from the relationship, that is on them and better for you in the long run. It took me YEARS to learn this (Im old), but there really is a perfect person out there that will support you so do not settle.

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