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I have this problem that I picked up from my father growing up: can’t effectively communicate negative feelings to people that I’m close with. I sort of expect them to know, and when they don’t get it or don’t show efforts that I’m expecting to receive, I start to distance myself from them and shut down. I started to reflect back on why I do this, and sense that this is some kind of a sick way of showing I have more power over the other person. How can I fix this?

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Start using your words and telling them how you feel, set boundaries and propose solutions🤷🏼‍♀️

I have this same problem, so bad! Trying to work on convincing myself that I have value and that people actually care how I feel (vs expecting me to just be quiet and deal with whatever), and to use my words to express those feelings. It’s tough but fingers crossed we can work through it 🤞

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